Over the past six months I have watched roughly a dozen TikTok videos from “Golf Cart Girl” Cass Holland. On the surface, in these videos Cass Holland is young, very attractive, funny, and she has a good disposition. But Cass is a good example for me to use in order to explain what other women are doing wrong.
The first few Golf Cart Girl videos that I saw of Cass Holland, I didn’t like her. I thought that she was a typical big-boobed, blond, dumb, complaining girl, with a stupid job. A couple of her videos were about some golfer who was trying to impress her and get a date with her. He took out a hundred dollar bill, tore it in half, and told her she could get the other half if she had dinner with him, something like that, he may have offered her additional money I believe to have dinner with him.
She didn’t like this man’s tactics, she thought about what to do, and she handled it appropriately, herself. She didn’t stomp off to the Club House trying to complain about him to the golf course manager or other golfers, trying to get him into trouble, making allegations of sexual harassment or solicitation.
As I continued to watch more of Cass Holland’s videos, it became apparent that she gets propositioned all day, every day at work. Sometimes subtly, bluntly, cleverly, awkwardly, funny, embarrassingly, appropriately, inappropriately. It is part of the job, in a way.
How can I say that being sexually harassed is part of any woman’s job? To answer this, is going to take more than one or two sentences, this may take more than several paragraphs: There are things that men do for fun, hobbies, sports that they play. Golf is a sport that men play during the day, that tends to have mostly successful, professional men that are business owners, managers, or are wealthy and able to be absent from a place of employment for the entire morning or afternoon during the middle of the week.
As part of a morning or afternoon outing with a group of men golfing, they engage in joking, amicable, friendly, boasting, competitive, or sparring conversations. And, just as likely consume some alcohol while golfing and socializing. In this frame of mind, it is not surprising that these men have something to say to the Golf Cart Girl, that they think is funny or entertaining.
In order to not ruin the jovial mood, make any golfer feel bad, or begin a confrontation, a smart Golf Cart Girl will not lash out and attack every golfer who says something stupid to her. Stop and think about this. If the Golf Cart Girl got into a fight every time a golfer said something that she didn’t like or thought was inappropriate, would ANY or MANY male golfers choose to buy drinks from her? Would male golfers choose to not even continue going to this particular golf course if the Golf Cart Girl was contentious?
In the 1990s there was a best-selling book titled, “The Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People”. In this book, the author states that the first three habits are, “Begin with the End in mind. Put First things First. Think, and Choose your response.” I don’t know how or where Cass Holland learned or came to know these three things, but she does.
Beginning with the End in mind, I think that Cass Holland thought about the money that she stands to make, the pleasantness of being able to work outside on a beautiful golf course, and the interesting successful people that she gets to meet at this particular place of employment. Putting First things First, Cass understands in her mind that selling as many drinks as possible and receiving as many tips as possible is the First Thing.
When men golfers say things to Cass that she does not like, she is able to Think and Choose her response, that is based on her already keeping the End in mind, and putting First things First. Is it best to say nothing at all? Is it best to say, No, but thank you. To say something funny? To let them down easy? To give a warning? To act ambivalent or un-phased?
Does it really matter that a man has said something stupid to her? Or does it matter more that she is getting off work in a couple of hours, has sold $2K worth of drinks, and has made $400 in tips that day?
From what I have seen, 90% of women wouldn’t last much longer than one week as a Golf Cart Girl at the golf course in the Phoenix area where Cass Holland works. 30% of women would be trying to find someplace to park and hide so that the didn’t have to work. 30% of women would be glaring, sneering, and snarling at the golfers. And 30% of the women would be too desperately trying to go home with a millionaire golfer.
Something else that Cass Holland handles well, is not being fooled by every handsome millionaire golfer that tries to get into her pants. When you see one of the TikTok videos that I include below, you will understand that all men are going to try to get her, but she has to reject 99% of men in a way that is not going to offend them.
Being careful to maintain a reputation of not being fooled by other women’s philandering husbands, has won Cass tolerance, if not admiration from women golfers and the wives of golfers. It also helps that Cass deals well with women golfers, even though women are in the minority and don’t generate as much in drink sales or tips.
Like I said, 90% of women would not last much longer than one week as a Golf Cart Girl at a prestigious gold course, and one of the reasons why is that most women not only do not get along with men, they don’t understand how detrimental other women can be to their success.
Because of the way that Cass conducts herself, not fighting with men even though they may have said something inappropriate, not hurting men’s feelings when she rejects them, not being fooled into sleeping with other women’s husbands, not going home with every handsome millionaire who asks, and is pleasant with women golfers, the women likely think very highly of Cass and want her to remain working there.
As far as women are concerned, it’s probably O.K. or amusing to them that their husbands, fiances, or boyfriends look forward to seeing the attractive Gold Cart Girl who always rejects their advances, but not in the least bit funny if there was any chance that she would agree. And perhaps the majority of women could be persuaded, which is why the majority of women couldn’t keep this job for much longer than one week.
Lastly, I want other women to take notice that Cass Holland does not have any tattoos, piercings, or smoke, like a street prostitute or side-show freak.