About two months ago I began seeing videos of a young lady named “Jane” on TikTok. At first, I thought that she was attractive, and upper-class or upper-middle-class, and so did many of her viewers. I am guessing that we thought this because she didn’t behave like most other young women her age.
Jane seemed to have a moderate and considered view on most things that other young people her age are consumed or obsessed with. Getting a job, having a job, having an apartment, having an automobile, clothes, jewelry, travel, boyfriend seemed unconcerning, unimportant, and inconsequential to her.
I liked Jane and I was interested in her, so I began watching ALL of her TikTok videos. She had grown up on the east coast of Florida, not far from where I grew up. I think that a lot of her growing up experiences were very much the same as mine, my sister’s, my sister’s husband, and our friends. All of us knew that we would be going to some college in the South, it was automatic, we didn’t really care, appreciate it, or feel privileged.
Growing up in Florida in a middle-class family, parents play golf, tennis, go off-shore fishing, sailing, boating, and get drunk. Not in a white-trash, I want to beat my wife, I want to curse my employer, I want to fight the cops, get arrested and lose your employment at a weekend cook-out type of drinking, but where everyone gets along and has a good time. This leads to teens learning to drink, and having an enjoyable time with their friends and family on boats, beaches, sand bars, lakes, docks, and backyard pools.
There are probably a thousand small, private colleges in the South, and some public universities that are nearly the same as private colleges. When the middle-class kids go to these small southern colleges, they are amongst their peers with very similar backgrounds. Socializing, meeting people, going out with friends, going to parties, drinking, hooking-up is as easy as riding a bike when you are so immersed with similar people. This experience is also taken for granted, and not fully appreciated at the time.
In many of Jane’s early TikTok videos, she was still living in the town where she had gone to college, it appeared. Like many college towns, there were a dozen fun, entertaining bars within walking distance of each other. In most of Jane’s early videos, she was joking/not-joking about getting drunk, getting high, and acting stupid.
I got the impression that Jane had probably spent a little too much time drinking during college, and was continuing to do so, she was kind of confessing and admitting it. I also believed that Jane had not had very fulfilling romantic relationships, because that was what she was describing.
I have seen extremely beautiful and lovely young women in college not have very good romantic relationships because they didn’t pursue them with any kind of plan or strategy. They didn’t know that they had to have a plan because there was no feeling of urgency or any sense of shortness of time. But before they know it, college is over, and they will never be immersed in a peer group of eligible mates like that again in their life. Then, dating does become difficult.
In a way, I admire Jane and her parents for not requiring there being any urgency for Jane finding a husband. Some mothers have very serious, threatening, and guilt-inducing talks with their daughters about the whole point of them paying for college was for her to find a good husband. From Jane’s descriptions of her mother and father, I think that they tried to offer suggestions and advice to Jane throughout her life, but she just does what she wants.
For the past couple of months, Jane has been making videos that in a roundabout way express her depression and sadness with not being able to meet anyone that she likes, who likes her back. For the time being, I am not going to explain and elaborate any further on Jane’s background and current circumstances, so that I can try to get to the point of giving dating advice to Jane.
Jane is 27 years old now, and I hope that she realizes that she has to have a plan and a strategy to meet someone, she just can’t leave this to chance or randomness, time goes by too quickly. Whether she knows it or not, Jane has a lot of good, desirable qualities. She is attractive, healthy, intelligent, has a good sense of humor, and is not trashy.
To meet suitable men, Jane needs to be able to find them. If Jane were lower-middle-class, or looking for a hook-up, I would tell Jane to join a gym, or how to meet firefighters, but that would just be wasting more time. The suitable men for Jane are wealthier, more educated, and professional. She can find and meet these men through their interests and hobbies.
Most wealthy, educated, professional, and successful men are interested in exotic cars, race cars, motorcycles, expensive watches, fast boats, offshore fishing boats, cruising yachts, sailing yachts, airplanes, and adventure travel. The thing that these men like second to owning their cars, motorcycles, expensive watches, boats, yachts, and airplanes, is someone complimenting and admiring these things that they own.
Jane needs to look at magazines to become very familiar with expensive cars, motorcycles, watches, boats, yachts, airplanes, and travel destinations. Whether Jane works at a golf course, visits a golf course, works at a resort, visits a resort bar or restaurant, gets invited to a party, attends an exotic car auction, attends a classic car show, gets to the pits and infield of a car race, goes to a boat show, attends a tech sales convention, goes on a tour-of-homes fundraiser, works in real estate, works in insurance, is a professional sales rep….Jane needs to look for and listen for men talking about their car, motorcycle, boat, yacht, plane, or where they are traveling, and express to them her interest and admiration.
Stupid women are probably rolling their eyes that they should have to stoop so low as to pretend to be interested in some man’s car, motorcycle, boat, or airplane, HOWEVER, the women who DO express an interest, ARE the ones who get invited to go for a ride, an afternoon of sailing, or a trip somewhere.
If women could think several steps ahead, a man with a $100K car, probably owns at least a $300K home. A man with a $300K boat, probably owns at least a $700K home. If a woman gets invited for a car ride, boat trip, or airplane trip, she will be introduced to this man’s friends and acquaintances who are probably just as successful and wealthy.
I want to emphasize and reiterate, successful, professional, educated, wealthy men place a great deal of importance on their possessions and hobbies. It is very off-putting, irritating, and insulting to these men when other people do not appreciate or recognize the significance of their toys and hobbies. These men are just like happy children when a woman finally compliments and recognizes how wonderful and awesome their possessions and hobbies are.
Many married men have absconded with their plain looking secretary because she pretended to share her employer’s enjoyment of his newest car, boat, or plane whereas his much more beautiful and accomplished wife never did.
The next dating advice that I am going to give to Jane, which is also very important, is that she quit deliberately trying to test people by being gross, sulky, moody, difficult, or sarcastic. Some examples of things that Jane needs to stop doing:
- Do not talk about or make videos about using the bathroom.
- Do not show your belly if doing so will be unflattering.
- Do not stick your tongue out if doing so will be unflattering.
- Do not get drunk and say that you need more starfish semen.
- Do not talk about whether you are on birth control or not.
- Do not become excessively intoxicated.
Jane did not ask for my advice or my mini-biography of her, and she probably will not like this blog post for a number of reasons, one of them being that it’s embarrassing. I point out that I did not use her last name, the town she is from, where she went to school, or where she lives currently.
Here is a 30-second video that Jane made of herself, that I think she would be least offended by me sharing:
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It seems we have a lot in common. I am about the same age as you and have no wife, no children and no girlfriend. My overall appreciation for women has declined over the course of my life to the point that I don’t even bother starting a new relationship anymore.
And yet, just like you, I can’t help but watch videos on Youtube of strong, attractive, independent women who seem to be doing just fine without a male in their life.
And also just like you, I am always disappointed in that. My latest disappointment is this one:
I came across a video of a woman living with a dog in her Toyota Prius. This is obviously an uncomfortable and dangerous way of life and I assumed that this woman is going through a difficult period and found it admirable that she is so positive and cheerful.
But when I started looking for why she lives in her car, I found that things are very different. This woman has been a candidate on the television show ‘The Bachelor’, has been a cheerleader at a big club and has an excellent relationship with her parents who are rich. She is a successful woman with many options.
So this woman doesn’t live in her car out of necessity, she does so of her own free will, probably simply because she can and because of the adventure and the views it provides on Youtube. (If you’re interested, the woman’s name is Nikki Delventhal).
Lately, the big question on my mind is;
Why do men like us, who want nothing to do with women anymore, still watch videos of women over and over again? Why don’t we completely eliminate women from our lives and spend that time and energy on other things?
Are we actually incels? Or simps? Or do we still have the hope deep down of meeting a normal, nice woman?
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In reply to Lone Wolf,
You lost me a couple of times, especially where you wrote, “…videos on Youtube of strong, attractive, independent women who seem to be doing just fine without a male in their life.” I don’t think that I have ever seen what you are describing. In fact, I make fun of, and mock, again and again the phrase, “strong independent women”.
There is nothing “strong” or “independent” about women. The modern civilization that we are living in, with paved roads, trains, planes, automobiles, indoor plumbing, city-sewer systems, electric grid, natural gas lines, heating, air-conditioning, cable TV, internet, telephones, THIS WAS ALL BUILT BY MEN!!!
There is nothing “strong” or “independent” about women. Not only do women live in a modern civilization that was built almost entirely by men, using everything that men built, women rely solely on MALE protection in the form of firefighters, law enforcement, and military. Women can’t even support themselves, they rely on their parents up to a certain point, then they switch to trying to manipulate men into paying for their survival, either voluntarily or involuntarily.
The reason why I watch women, is the entertainment and knowledge I gain by seeing, “What shit are they trying to pull now?” Same as watching videos of people catching snakes, feeding feral cats, gibbon apes swinging on monkey bars, real estate agent women messing up a house sale, Karens arguing with neighbors, women complaining about their job.
U.S. society and civilization is getting ready to collapse because of a culmination of impending problems that have not been corrected: Shortage of housing, unaffordability of housing, rising homelessness, increasing unemployment, increasing underemployment, overcrowding in all U.S. cities, dissatisfaction among minorities, growth of super-wealthy, disappearance of middle-class, lack of U.S. manufacturing, U.S. relying on import of critical equipment & hardware, inflation, most individuals have no savings, most individuals live paycheck-to-paycheck, individuals can not afford healthcare, U.S. Dollar will be devalued greatly when it is no longer sole currency for oil, majority of U.S. citizens expect Government to pay, house, feed, and provide medical care.
When the collapse comes, women will no longer be needed, women will no longer be protected. Women have this mistaken belief that they ARE strong and independent, as shown on television, movies, magazines, news media. They believe that, “they can do anything a man can do”, “a women needs a man, like a fish needs a bicycle”, yet they take for granted how much they rely on police, firefighters, the courts to intervene and protect them. When the collapse comes, with riots, looting, power outage, roving scavengers and thieves, food & water shortages, no one needs a woman, woman are just useless eaters then. Women will be kicked out into the streets. Who wants them running their mouth, complaining, eating their food, stinking up the place, making stupid decisions?
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In reply to name withheld,
I will elaborate a little more about it;
When you first discovered the videos of Isabel Paige, you ‘thought that she was interesting enough and attractive enough to write about’.
Same thing with Hannah Lee Duggan, you said you started watching her videos because ‘Hannah is attractive, she has a likable disposition, she shows intelligence, creativity, and ingenuity’.
Then I read that you felt sorry for a women from Massachusetts, which you gave ample advice for moving to Dickison.
And finally, there’s is Ashley Timm, you thought ‘was very nice looking, attractive, well-spoken, intelligent, and likeable’.
I don’t think you only watch videos of women to see ‘What shit are they trying to pull now’.
You seem still quite interested in women and have appreciation for some of them, even though you seem to despise women most of the time.
Just like me. And I’m trying to figure out what’s behind that.
I’m not trying to offend you, this is just an observation.
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In reply to LoneWolf,
Back when I was a kid growing up on the east coast of Florida in the 1970s, at that time & place there were many good-looking women who were friendly, liked dating, going out, liked men. Women then & there had a lot to gain by being friendly, and a lot to lose by being unfriendly.
To give some perspective, about four times per year the syndicated newspaper columnist “Dear Abby”, would list letters from different women who wrote,”Dear Abby, there used to be a man who came to the bank every Friday to cash his paycheck. And every time, he would ask me out. I hated it, I didn’t like him at all. Finally, after a year of this, I agreed to go on a date with him. We have now been married for 20 years, and have four children. I couldn’t be happier. Please tell ‘Wants To Be Left Alone’ to give her suitor a chance.”
I grew up with a certain view of women. When women wrote or said that they were interested in Romantic Love, chemistry, a spark, finding their soul-mate, I believed them.
It wasn’t until I was in my early forties, and began using internet dating sites, that I found out that ALL women had been lying. What women said they wanted was a lie. Given anonymity, women wrote what they truly wanted: A man at least 6′ tall, making over $100K, greater education level than them, greater earning potential than them, etcetera. This had absolutely nothing to do with Romance, chemistry, a spark, being a soul-mate. Women are just Parasites wanting to ride on a man’s coat-tails, his achievements, taking and spending his money on themselves.
In my normal state with my normal belief system, I can feel sorry for women, and not immediately assume the worst about women, thinking that girls like Isabel Paige or Hannah Lee Duggan are just starting out in life, not trying to do anything wrong. However, once I realized that they were lying by misrepresenting themselves and omitting information, it switches my operating program to the one where I am aware that ALL women are lying, scheming, plotting, treacherous parasites.
The oldest surviving cultures on Earth, the Middle East and Asia, those cultures realized several thousand years ago that women can’t be granted full rights, they are not capable of being moral, ethical, honest, truthful, self-governing, logical, responsible, accountable, women are much worse than children.
Women can’t build things like men. All women know to do or seek to do is destroy things, create chaos and disorder. Just like the story of Eve in the Bible, she ruined everything.
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