My Take On MGTOW, Men Going Their Own Way

There is very little to do in Dickinson, North Dakota.  It is not safe to go out to restaurants or bars to have drinks and socialize in Dickinson because the Police are so aggressive in stopping people for DUI.  Also, there is a shortage of women, the women are mostly unattractive, and the women, restaurant servers, and bartenders are mean and unfriendly.  Therefore, there is no reason for me to go out in Dickinson, in fact, I have every reason to stay home.

One of the things that I do to pass the time at home in Dickinson, is to watch YouTube videos.  I do not have very much interest in MGTOW videos, videos about Men Going Their Own Way, but these videos are becoming one of the most common subjects on YouTube.

I suppose that one of the reasons why I have very little interest in MGTOW videos, is because I actually live like this, though this was not a choice that I made, it just happened to be forced upon me by living in Dickinson.

Back in Idaho, I had some nice girlfriends, women friends, and prospective girlfriends.  It is actually important for me to remember this, before I go bashing all women as not being worth the trouble.

Because of my employment in North Dakota, I only have a few chances each year to go back to my home in Idaho, to do some yard, house, and vehicle maintenance.  When I get back to the small town where my home is, it is astonishing how attractive, pleasant, and friendly the women are in comparison to North Dakota.  I only have time to go to the local hardware store, Arctic Circle restaurant, and the Dollar Store usually, and the women are all very nice, especially the young girls that are in high school or just out of high school.

I will try to sum women up quickly in the area of Idaho where I had been living:  The women like men, the women don’t hate men, the women like to get asked out by men, the women like to go on dates, they like to go to the movies, they like to go out to eat, they like to ride horses, they like to ride motorcycles, they like to ride snow mobiles, they like to go boating, they like to take trips, they like getting attention, they like to look nice, they try to be attractive, they try to act reasonable to get along and so that people like them.

In Idaho where I had been living, some women were good company, fun, funny, enjoyable, pleasant, helpful, considerate, and affectionate.  Why wouldn’t you want to be around women like this?  You just have to be careful to not unintentionally get them pregnant, or become involved with a woman who is more crazy than you can handle.

When I first came to work in Dickinson, North Dakota in the Spring of 2011, during the oil boom, I noticed that there was a shortage of women, and a scarcity of attractive women.  What this resulted in, this shortage of women, was the women that were here, did not make any effort to have a nice appearance, or be pleasant, or be friendly.  In fact, most of the women in Dickinson, North Dakota are mean, hostile, unfriendly, sneering, glaring, and scowling.

Because of the shortage of women in Dickinson during the oil boom, there were many job openings at restaurants, bars, hotels, convenience stores, and retail stores.  Women who could not find employment where they were living, especially women in Seattle, Spokane, and Couer d’Alene, came to Dickinson.  Many of these women, maybe even most of these women, were rough, drug addicted, jaded, damaged women, and they didn’t even have to make an adjustment to fit right in with the mean, hostile, unfriendly, sneering, glaring, scowling women that were already here in Dickinson.

So in Dickinson, North Dakota, MGTOW has been forced upon many men, because there aren’t hardly any nice women available for dating.

One more comment that I will make, is that beginning about twenty to thirty years ago, men in the United States who found that there was a shortage of women where they were living, and no women available for dating, they would look into getting a “Mail Order Bride” from Russia, Vietnam, Thailand, or the Philippines.

Initially, twenty to thirty years ago, there were many women who were so desperate to get out of Russia, Vietnam, Thailand, or the Philippines, that they would actually make a very good effort to be pleasant, helpful, agreeable, faithful, and affectionate with their American husband.

Beginning about fifteen years ago, even the “Mail Order Brides” came to be mean, treacherous, scheming, rough, jaded women, not any different than women from LA, Seattle, Spokane, or Coeur d’Alene, so why even bother with the trouble and high cost to obtain a Mail Order Bride if they were going to be so bad.


Meth Head Mechanics

Since I was about 16 years old, I began learning to not take my vehicle to get worked on at any place where I had any doubts at all.  If you have any doubt at all, don’t do it.

In the town where I lived, there was an independent mechanic named Sid, who had his own garage where he specialized in Volkswagen and Audi repair.  He worked on my mother’s diesel Audi 5000, my sister’s VW Jetta, and my VW Rabbit.  Sid was pretty straight-up, no-nonsense, honest, and truthful.

I took my VW Rabbit to the Goodyear tire store to get tires, and the Goodyear mechanic was telling me that the front suspension needed to have several different parts replaced.  Remember, I only brought the VW Rabbit to Goodyear for tires.  I called the Audi/VW mechanic named Sid who worked on my VW Rabbit and he said, bullshit, you don’t need any repair on your VW Rabbit, it’s fine, there is nothing wrong with it.

Someone who is working as a mechanic, is not necessarily an expert, an experienced mechanic, a knowledgeable mechanic, a competent mechanic, honest, ethical, or moral.

About one year after I graduated from high school, I bought a used Jeep Cherokee that was in very good condition.  My father and mother asked me to help move my sister from Florida where we lived, to Washington D.C.  It was about a 1,200 mile drive, one way.  A family friend was going to let us borrow an enclosed utility trailer to tow behind my Jeep Cherokee with my sister’s furniture and belongings.

My father asked me to take my Jeep Cherokee to an acquaintance of his, who owned a small garage not far from where we lived.  I can’t think of what else I wanted to have done besides an oil change prior to this trip, it was something small, but the main thing that I wanted was an oil change.  My father wanted me to take my vehicle to this garage, because the garage owner was a client of his, he probably owed my father money, or would owe him money soon, so my father wanted to exchange his services, for garage services.

When I went to pick up my Jeep Cherokee, the garage owner’s sons had forgotten to change the engine oil, and had forgotten to do something else.  Two out of the three things that they were supposed to do, they didn’t do.  Back then, in this small town, there weren’t usually written work orders, or written service receipts, it was all verbal.  If you verbally requested something to be done, when you went to pick up your vehicle, they were supposed to have done what you asked.  This garage, and these people, were a complete mess.

Besides some mechanics not being experts, experienced, knowledgeable, competent, honest, ethical, or moral, some mechanics are just plain mixed up people who have problems with everything that they try to do.  Do not take your vehicle to a mechanic based on this person owing you money, wanting to exchange their services for your goods or services, because of some type of friendship, or because of a recommendation that was based on friendship.  Only take your vehicle to a mechanic on the basis of their competency, knowledge, skill, expertise, and experience.

When I went to work for construction companies in the late 1990s, sometimes a new hire employee would have behavior or work problems right away.  A company manager would call the pre-employment drug testing company to ask for this new hire person’s drug test results as soon as possible.  It would usually turn out that this new hire person’s drug test results would show positive for one or more illegal drugs.

Also working for construction companies, besides some new hire employees acting abnormal and having work problems right away because they were illegal drug users, some new hire employees could not do the work that they said they could do, they had lied about their work experience, knowledge, and competency.

The new hire illegal drug users, and the new hires who lie about their work experience, knowledge, and competency, these same type of people seek and gain employment at all of the quick lube service shops, tire stores, and gas station repair garages.

Car dealership service departments scrutinize the work history and qualifications of their mechanics before they are hired.  They verify work history, and they want to see actual certifications verifying competencies for different types of mechanical work.  The car dealerships have their service department personnel watch new mechanics very carefully for the first few months of their employment.

Quick lube service shops, tire stores, and gas station repair garages often turn a new hire loose on their first day of work, to do what the new hire claimed to have work experience doing.  What this means, is that at a quick lube service shop, tire store, or gas station repair garage, the person performing work on your vehicle, may be a person who just got hired off the street, who may in fact have no experience, knowledge, or competency at all, and may also be a drug addict.

You can read newspaper articles, listen to radio car talk programs, look up internet articles, or watch YouTube videos about the problems people have had with their vehicles at quick lube shops, tire stores, or gas station repair garages.

On car talk radio programs, two discussions that I can remember, are as follows.  One woman went to a gas station, and the attendant filled up her car’s brake fluid reservoir with power steering fluid.  The gas station attendant was just young, inexperienced, not knowledgeable, and he didn’t know any better.  The woman’s husband called the gas station owner, and the gas station owner agreed to pay for a new brake master cylinder replacement.

Another caller to a car talk radio program, who was among other callers that hour who had experienced the same problem, his daughter took her Toyota Camry to a quick lube shop, and she left the quick lube shop with no oil in the car’s engine.  The young lady drove her car for some miles before it was obviously overheating and something was wrong, but by that time the car engine was ruined.  The quick lube shop owner agreed to pay for a new engine for the Toyota Camry.

One Monday morning when I came in to work at an oil company in Texas, two of my co-workers, Mark and Charlie, they both had their vehicles damaged at a quick lube shop over the weekend.  Mark watched through the window, as a quick lube technician went and got a long handle torque wrench, and turn the oil pan drain plug the opposite direction, stripping either the threads on the drain plug or the oil pan.  Charlie had experienced the quick lube technician turning the oil pan drain plug in the wrong direction and breaking it off in the oil pan of his BMW.

You have got to wonder, what is wrong with the quick lube technician, or what kind of experience or knowledge can he have, if he believes that an oil pan drain plug is stuck, when in fact they are turning the drain plug in the wrong direction?  An oil drain plug is staring you right in the face like a clock on the wall, and a drain plug gets turned counter-clockwise.  If you drained the oil from an oil pan one time, or two times, you should be able to grasp this concept.  How could this be your 8 to 10 hour per day job, and you do not know to turn a drain plug counter-clockwise?

The last two stories are about two cars that I bought, that almost had their engines ruined by the last person who worked on them, to perform a very simple repair.  This repair was so simple, yet so messed up, that I can only believe that the work must have been done at a tire store or a gas station garage, because a car dealer mechanic would never have done this.

I bought a 1977 Porsche 924 about ten years ago.  It had about 120,000 miles on it, it ran O.K., and it was in fair condition.  I was looking at the engine one day, and I noticed that a belt was rubbing on the engine, I couldn’t believe it.  I looked closely to see what was going on.  I could see that the belt had been rubbing on the engine for some time, and if I had not noticed this, it would have rubbed right through the engine casting, causing damage to the engine that was either not repairable, or only repairing by removing the engine from the car and doing some hideous welding on the engine to weld over a gaping hole.

I found the same thing on a 1978 Mercedes 300D that I bought eight years ago.  This 300D diesel Mercedes was in excellent condition, and the engine would have lasted for several hundred thousand miles more.  But this engine was nearly ruined by a belt that was rubbing on the engine casting.  It had been rubbing for some time, and it would have rubbed a hole right through the wall of the engine casting if I would not have noticed it.  The only possible repair would have been to remove the engine from the car and make a weld over the hole, but it was in a very bad spot.  The engine might not have been repairable.

What had happened to both the 1977 Porsche 924 and the 1978 Mercedes 300D, was that a belt replacement was required.  There was a belt tensionor pulley on an arm that you would need to rotate onto the belt and then tighten the tensionor mount bolt to hold the tensionor in place.  Who ever replaced the belt, rotated the tensionor pulley the wrong way, the tensionor pulley was making contact with the belt, but it was also pushing the belt onto the engine casting.

I wonder if in both of these cases, was the “mechanic” stupid, incompetent, inexperienced, on illegal drugs, or unethical, or some combination of these things.  If you are a “mechanic” how could you not see that the belt was pushed up against the engine, and that it was rubbing against the engine.  Do illegal drugs make you not care that the engine is going to be damaged and that this is not the way that the belt tensionor goes?

All I had to do was untighten the belt tensionor pulley arm, rotate it the opposite direction, hold it tight against the belt, and tighten it back down.

If you take your vehicle to a quick lube shop, a tire store, or a gas station garage, be prepared to receive a “free gift” from the meth addict “mechanic”, that little something extra that will cost you thousands of dollars later on.

I Get Asked, “Do You Like Living In Dickinson?”

Today I was asked, “Do you like living in Dickinson?”  In order to not be mean and unfriendly, I usually say, “I can make more money in Dickinson right now, than I can back in Idaho, but it has been difficult.”

Usually, I will give one or two examples of how it has been difficult.  Today I said, “In the apartment building where I live in downtown Dickinson, there is a lot of noise, fighting, drug dealing, and theft.  I wish that I was back a my own house, where I didn’t have to deal with neighbors like this.”

If I were to tell the truth, it would be something like this, “With the shortage of women, lack of attractive women, unfriendly women in restaurants and bars, and the Police trying to stop everyone they can, living in Dickinson has been like being in prison.”

Most of the time, when local people ask me how I like living in Dickinson, from the way that they act when they ask me, it appears that they are expecting me to say how nice it is, or how great it is.  This is one of the reasons why I sometimes write that the people in Dickinson are not even aware that Dickinson is any different from anywhere else.

I have tried to come up with a way, at least in my mind, to quickly sum up how Dickinson, North Dakota is different than the area of Idaho where I had been living.  The most important thing that I could say about the area of Idaho where I had been living, was that it was very “Progress” oriented.

What I mean by “Progress” oriented, is that anything that was accomplished that was good, it was appreciated, celebrated, or valued.  For instance, a new house being built, a new barn being built, a road being paved, a new Doctor moving to town, a new Dentist moving to town, someone’s kid graduating from college, someone’s kid becoming an engineer, someone’s kid becoming a lawyer, all of these types of things were appreciated, celebrated, and valued.

The reason why, was because the people believed that when these things happened, everyone was making progress, things were improving, things were getting better, these were signs of success, people are prospering.

Another reason why accomplishments, especially other people’s accomplishments, were appreciated, celebrated, and valued, was the belief that surely these things will help and benefit all of us.

The area of Idaho where I had been living, was about 60% to 70% Mormon.  Idaho has more Mormons in total, and more Mormons per-capita, than Utah does.  The Mormons are very “Progress” and “Results” oriented.  What this is like, is that Mormons want other people to do well and prosper, and together everyone can do well and prosper.

Just like in every religion or culture, there are some members that don’t do what they are supposed to be practicing, but in general, the Mormon idea that everyone can do well together, is something that you can see working when you live in a Mormon community.

If you don’t want to believe what I am writing, you can read the book by Blaine Lee titled, “The Power Principle, How To Influence With Honor.”  Blaine Lee was a Mormon, and an associate of another Mormon named Stephen Covey who wrote the very famous book titled “The Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People”.

When I read Blaine Lee’s book “The Power Principle, How To Influence With Honor” when I was about 27 years old, it changed the way I thought and behaved.  At first, I had a hard time believing what Blaine Lee was teaching, that one of the best and most important ways that you can be successful, was to get out of other people’s way and help other people to be successful.

I am not going to dwell on this principle right now, but this really works.  Especially in the work place, you would be amazed to see how much “Progress” and “Results” can be made by getting out of co-workers or subordinates way, and helping them to be successful.

For instance, this is a really good example, when I was a construction superintendent and a construction project manager at a very young age, I would talk to the foremen to see how they wanted to handle something, and then say O.K., that’s a good idea.  When I asked them what they thought, and what they wanted to do, and they came up with solutions, and I said that’s a good idea go ahead, most of the time, everybody started coming up with their own solutions to problems.

The big change that occurred, was soon, there weren’t really any problems on any of my construction projects, the work moved right along.  The laborers saw a problem or difficulty approaching, and they thought of their own solution, because they were allowed to, they were encouraged to, they felt empowered, they felt like they were freed to do their work.  The same thing happened for the foremen, and the superintendents.  They were allowed to come up with their own solutions and implement them, so they did.

Who would have thought, that just getting out of people’s way, and helping them to be successful, would help me?  My projects went so well, that I was promoted to project manager, received higher pay, received large bonuses, got a new company Jeep Cherokee to drive, and I was specifically requested by company owners for difficult projects.

To reiterate, the Mormons, the culture of Idaho where I had been living, was very “Progress” and “Results” oriented.  Where achievement and accomplishments, especially other people’s accomplishments, were appreciated, valued, and celebrated, because there was the belief that these things improved life for everyone.

In contrast, in Dickinson, and western North Dakota, people act like they hate each other, people act like if someone else fails, that this helps them succeed.  And, if someone else succeeds, this makes them fail.

This is why in Dickinson and western North Dakota, people do not cooperate with each other, co-workers do not cooperate with each other, co-workers undermine each other, co-workers withhold information, workers try to find something about their co-workers to fault them for or use against them.

Just recently, which I wrote about in a previous blog post, another contractor got one of their work trucks stuck on a job site.  I let them borrow my personal tow strap and tow rope, helped them hook up the trucks, got them to try a different way when it didn’t work, and was ready to get the site owner to come down with their front end loader.  When I realized that I was the only other person left at the site that day, I was figuring on having to use the front end loader myself.  However, I was informed the following day, that if I had used the loader, I would have been fired immediately.

I am repeating this story, because in the past, I saw that work got accomplished much better when people came up with their own solutions to problems, and were allowed to solve work site problems.  When you start being nasty to people who dare to come up with solutions to problems that arise on the work site, people will revert back to standing around, waiting, not doing anything, not offering information, not offering solutions that they know of, because they are scared of getting in trouble.

So, in Dickinson, this is not a culture of “Progress” or “Results”, it is a culture of trying to keep other people down, keep other people in their place, and someone else accomplishing something or succeeding, is seen as being detrimental.  This is one of the reasons why people in Dickinson hate people with a college education so much, they see someone else’s accomplishments, as being detrimental to them.

A Dream About Working As An Engineer

For the past two nights, I have had the same recurring dream about working as an engineer.  I could say that I don’t know why, but I think that I do know why.

I was in a very large city, and I had interviewed and gotten a job with an engineering company, because of my B.S. in mechanical engineering, my work experience, and my age, I am 49 years old.

This engineering company had offices and work space on something like the 18th or 20th floor, the mid-height, of a large modern commercial building downtown.

On my first day of work, the work space of this engineering company was somewhat hectic and chaotic.  Everyone was in a hurried, stressed, unfriendly, shitty mood.  Someone, I believe that it was a woman project manager, was giving me some work assignment, about a specific task, but with very little details.

In order to be polite, and not rude, I attempted to listen to what this woman project manager was telling me, and to try to begin work from the information that she gave me.

But before I had a chance to consider what I could do based on the information that she had given me, a second person was trying to assign me a second project.  I was almost immediately skeptical of this second project, and I don’t know if I will have time to describe it, but I began to wonder if this second project was even a company authorized work project, and not a fool’s errand.

The first assignment that I had been given by the woman project manager, was to devise a way to remotely open a safe.  I was given very little details or information about this existing situation and safe.  I at first wondered was this woman project manager intentionally being vague, or was there some strategic reason to not provide much details or information, such as a customer’s request to maintain security.

I sat at my desk and tried to think about this problem, and block out all the noise, movement, and chaos of this office space.  I began to ask myself, was this a walk-in vault, or was this a wall safe?  Did the lock have a mechanical dial, or a keypad?  Was the lock mechanism mechanical, magnetic, or electronic?  If this was a walk-in vault, and there was a large amount of electronic control on the lock, the manufacturer might already have automation hardware and software for this lock.

As I was thinking about the possibilities in devising a way to remotely unlock a safe or a vault, the individual who had tried to give me my second assignment, stopped by my desk to ask me how this second assignment was coming along.  I told him that it wasn’t anywhere yet, I was working on my first assignment at this moment, I would get to his assignment later.

I began to wonder even more if this second assignment was even a company authorized assignment, and not some whim or thing that this individual thought of himself, having no idea the amount of time that this second assignment would take.  In any case, I was not going to jump through hoops, or split myself in two, trying to please everyone by either lying about working on their project, or dropping what I was doing to work on their project.

Getting back to my first assignment after the interruption, I visualized a way to remotely turn a mechanical dial, using an electric motor that could run in forward and reverse.  The easiest way to control the dial position, was by a camera pointed at the dial and alignment mark.  This solution involved both remote control of an electric motor, and remotely viewing video.

Rather than reinventing the wheel, you would try to buy off-the-shelf components that were as complete as possible for what you were trying to do.  There are many manufacturers that make a variety of cameras whose video can be viewed via cell phones or laptops.  But then, you must consider that you have to be absolutely certain that no one else can view this video of the safe mechanical dial being rotated through its combination sequence.

In order to have a simpler solution, you would actually not even want to have to run a mechanical dial through its combination sequence, you would want to have a way to bypass the combination lock, and just mechanically retract the lock bolts, release a magnetic lock, or deactivate an electrical lock.  You would also want to bypass a digital keypad if it had one.

Now that I had an idea of how to accomplish the remote unlocking of a safe or a vault whether it had a mechanical dial, digital keypad, magnetic lock, or electrical lock, I knew that I needed to get more information and specific information on the existing equipment that was in place, in order to come up with a specific solution.

Also, I was aware in my mind, that if this was a modern commercial vault, the vault manufacturer probably already provided equipment and technical assistance for accomplishing this, and they would be the best ones to handle most of this, not me.  Would I then have to pretend for some reason that I/we had performed any engineering services?

When I tried to explain as succinctly as possible to the woman project manager, what additional information I needed and why, she expressed irritation and discomfort.  I was not approaching her with problems, I was approaching her with solutions, I just needed more information.

I had to try to discern if her irritation and discomfort was because she did not know any additional information herself, or if she didn’t understand what I was telling her.  I would have known that she understood what I was telling her, if she acknowledged that yes, we need to know if this is a safe or a vault, if it has a mechanical dial, digital keypad, magnetic lock, or electrical lock.  Instead she was just irritated.

I didn’t really want to work at this engineering company any more, both because of this first assignment and the second assignment that I was given.  I have seen this before, and I have lived through this before.  It is frustrating, upsetting, and tiring, working for people who do not know or understand what you are talking about or trying to explain to them.  You come to the conclusion that there is no way that you can win or be happy under these circumstances or working for this company.

The second assignment that I was given, I am embarrassed to say, was that I was shown a 60″ wide x 60″ tall, large plan cabinet with drawers, that required some effort to get the drawers open.  The frame was metal, but the drawers were wooden.  You could say that this cabinet was old, custom made, or home made.  I was asked to come up with a mechanical assist for the drawer opening.

As I mentioned previously up above, I was skeptical that this was a company authorized project, and not some idea that someone got into their head, not understanding the amount of time something like this would take.

When you perform engineering work, the time that you spend working on something is not billed at the engineer’s pay rate, it is billed at the engineer’s pay rate plus all of the associated company overhead costs.  The actual billing rate for having an engineer spend time on something could be $50 to $300 per hour.

I could tell right away that the plan drawers in this large cabinet did not open very well once they were loaded, because there were no drawer rollers of any kind.  I wondered if there was enough room to install rollers.  I wondered if the drawer rests would have to be replaced with roller-rail assemblies.

I remembered owning a very expensive large office cabinet with drawers made by the manufacturer HON.  Not only did these drawers have rollers and rails, there was a string and pulley system on it so that no two drawers could be pulled open at the same time.  If you pulled one drawer open, another drawer would be pulled closed.  This was to prevent a heavy cabinet from tipping over on top of someone.  This would also be necessary to have on this old home-made cabinet if you made the drawers easy to open.

For the amount of time that it would take me to re-engineer this old home-made plan cabinet, the amount of money it would cost for my time, the hardware, and the installation, it would be cheaper and better to buy a new plan cabinet.  And I wondered, and I doubted, that this was even a company approved assignment, and not something that someone just thought up on a whim.

I woke up from this dream, being nearly as upset as if these things had actually happened.  Yes, I would quit working for an engineering company or any company on the first day, and I have done it.  I have lived through this and experienced this before.

What I have experienced in Dickinson, more often than not, is not only that people do not know, but they do not know, that they do not know.  There is sometimes no likelihood that you can change, fix, or improve anything.

On the second night of this recurring dream, I was able to explain to the engineering company owner as diplomatically as possible that I did not want to do engineering work for his company, however, it was seen that I might want to do maintenance work at a far away rural industrial location.  I was very happy and contented performing maintenance work at this far away rural industrial location.

At the maintenance job, I could see something, and do something.  There was no wasting time, discussion, debate, mis-information, mis-communication, or dealing with people.  However, for some reason, I had to go back to the city and straighten things out with the woman project manager, who was very angry.  She did not know why I left, that I had left, or that I had switched to an entirely different job.

She was complaining that my pay rate had to be straightened out, I was hired under the supervisor job classification, which was entirely different from the pay rate for maintenance work.  I explained to her why I did not want to work as an engineer with this company, which other people in the work area overheard.  She stomped off.  After she had left, two other engineers who had overheard what I had explained to her, said yes, we are always having this problem.

This dream to me, was an affirmation and reminder that I do not want to work as an engineer, that I do not want to work in the city, that I do not want to work in close quarters in an office building, and that I do not want to work with women.

The Dickinson Mafia And Bank Owners In North Dakota

It has been a while since I have mentioned the Dickinson Mafia in one of my blog posts, probably more than a year.  There may come a time, when circumstance arise that may cause me to identify the members of the Dickinson Mafia by name, there are about eight of them.  But at this time, it would be more trouble than it is worth.

For the newcomers to Dickinson, the Dickinson Mafia are a group of business owners, land owners, and political office holders who try to control what goes on in Dickinson.  They tell themselves, and each other, that what they try to accomplish is good for Dickinson, but these things coincide with what benefits them.

A reader may think, so what, what is wrong with this, what is the problem?  I will give you a couple of examples.  One of the ways in which Dickinson is controlled, is by controlling who is hired.  Often times, hiring in Dickinson is not a matter of selecting the most experienced and qualified applicant.  Hiring involves selecting the applicant that has been selected ahead of time due arrangements being made on the basis of family connections, seeking to win favor with someone, promise of being compensated, threat of being punished, or outright being told to do so.

Another way in which Dickinson is controlled, which people learn when they live here, is by:  who gets stopped by the Police and who gets let go;  who moves forward with being criminally prosecuted and who has charges dropped;  who gets a long sentence and who gets a short sentence, or no sentence;  who gets a building permit and who does not;  who receives building code violations and who does not;  who receives a bank loan and who does not;  who keeps their job and who gets laid off;  who gets awarded contracts and who does not;  who gets good publicity in the newspaper and who does not.

Myself, and other people who live in Dickinson, would like to be treated fairly, but sometimes that doesn’t happen.  It is upsetting, when steps are taken to interfere with your being hired, your work, being stopped by the Police, attempted entrapment by the Police, or not being able to get a bank loan.

For the readers who still don’t know what I am talking about, you can read my previous blog posts titled “They Hide Jobs In Dickinson, North Dakota”, “The Disputed Termination Of David Armendariz”, “Not Being Paid By Employers In Dickinson”, “Being Stopped By The Police In Dickinson, North Dakota”,  “Almost Getting Caught By The Drug Task Force In Dickinson, North Dakota”, “Legal Entrapment Of Manish In Dickinson, North Dakota”.

In understanding Dickinson, it is like pealing back layers of an onion.  After studying things for a while, you may think that you understand Dickinson, but then you realize that there is another layer below what you have already found.

Here is one way to look at these layers of Dickinson:

The first thing that a newcomer to Dickinson will likely experience, is contact with their employer and the Police in Dickinson.  This is what is on the surface of Dickinson.  If you have any sense, you will quickly realize that you are better off saying very little to your employer, your co-workers, and the Police in Dickinson, because they are all trying to find fault with you, and something to charge you with.

The next layer down, the socialization in Dickinson, will be the people that you meet and interact with at grocery stores, retail stores, businesses, restaurants, bars, school, the West River Community Center, etc.  You may come to understand that the socialization in Dickinson is heavily influenced by the German, Ukranian, and Catholic ancestry of the local people.

The next layer down, the economy in Dickinson, you may find out about the 1st, 2nd, and 3rd oil booms in Dickinson, the history of the settlers and agriculture, the history of the poverty and wealth, the historical prices of land, success and failures of businesses and industries, coal mining, Uranium mining, etc.

The next layer you may come to in understanding Dickinson, is the Dickinson Mafia layer.  You may begin to learn about the influence and control of the Dickinson Mafia, what businesses they own, what they are involved in, who they are related to, what they are trying to accomplish.

Unfortunately for me, the next layer that I came to understand about Dickinson, is the crime and illegal drug activity.  Someone a little older than me, who moved to Dickinson twenty years ago said to me, “If everyone in Dickinson knew the truth about the crime and the illegal drug activity in Dickinson, 80% of the people would leave Dickinson.”  You would probably leave Dickinson, if you knew the truth about what is going on.

The furthest layer down, that I have seen, is the Bank owners in North Dakota.  They are invisible, they were invisible to me, until a couple of things made me realize that they were there.  This is funny, and embarrassing, because ultimately, they own everything, far surpassing anyone else or any entity in control and importance.

I read this factual statistic recently, and I have heard and seen this statistic about five times previously, that was uncovered by economists and financial experts, and reported by journalists:

1% of people…………..own or control 80% of the wealth in the U.S.

19% of people…………own or control 12% of the wealth in the U.S.

80% of people…………own or control 8% of the wealth in the U.S.

The two most important things to see, are that the top 1% wealthiest people own 80% of the wealth in the U.S., and that the vast majority of people, the bottom 80% own only 8% of the wealth in the U.S.

I had thought that the Dickinson Mafia control things in Dickinson.  It is true, that they try to control things in Dickinson.  But the Bank owners in North Dakota, have much more control.  However you don’t see, hear, or read very much about the Bank owners in North Dakota, and that is the way that they want it to be.

In Dickinson, there may be griping, complaining, debate, lobbying, protesting, and politicking over such things as:  the permitting of man-camps, people sleeping in their cars, shortage of housing, arrival of street gangs, drug trafficking, prostitution, new housing developments, new business developments, damaged roads, end of the oil boom, people leaving, low occupancy rates, fewer jobs, lower wages, Sears closing, JC Penny closing, Herbergers Closing, new refineries, etc.

Out-of-state workers have their opinions about what they want, which may not be the same as the opinions and what the local people want.  The Dickinson Mafia, have their opinion about what they want, which usually they are able to persuade the local people that this is what they want too, which inevitably is what gets done in Dickinson.

It appears to me, that the Bank owners in North Dakota, do not waste their time and energy paying attention to the daily, weekly, or monthly squabbles and goings on in Dickinson, as if they are of no consequence to them, though they are the biggest land and resource owners in western North Dakota.

I don’t know if the Bank owners figure that whatever gets decided, whichever way things go, either way they will make money.  Or, if when something matters to the Bank owners in North Dakota, when something affects them, that they decide to intervene.  If they do intervene, I have never seen, heard, or read about it.

Doing The Right Thing In North Dakota Can Cost You Your Job

In North Dakota, doing the right thing can cost you your job.  I have seen it happen to other people, and it has happened to me too.  For instance, you can read my previous blog posts about “The Disputed Termination Of David Armendariz In Dickinson, North Dakota”.

Some of my blog posts are too long, so I want to try to get right to the point about something that happened to me this week, where I almost lost my job.

For the past year, I have worked at a site that is approximately 100 acres in size.  This week, an outside independent contractor was hired to perform some work at this site.  This contractor had four, one-ton four-wheel-drive trucks on this site.  On the second day of their work, one of these trucks got stuck in a low lying wet area.

This contractor drove up to me, to ask me if I had a tow strap, they could not find any of theirs on any of their trucks.  I had a new 30′ tow strap in my personal vehicle, and also a 30′ heavy duty rope.  I said that I would drive down behind them in my vehicle.  I already had an idea of where they got stuck.

I wanted to have the owner of this contracting company, pull his stuck work truck out from behind, because this looked like the best way.  The contracting company owner wanted to try to pull his stuck truck out from the front, so that is how I hooked the tow strap up.

The contracting company owner driving his one-ton four-wheel-drive dual rear wheel diesel Dodge truck could not pull this other one-ton four-wheel-drive truck out from the front.  I said let’s try it from the back, and if this doesn’t work, I will get the site owners to pull this truck out with their front end loader.

Luckily, this truck came out of the mud, when it was pulled from the back, but it just barely came out.  I did not want to try to get the site owners to start up their loader and bring it down, because they look at this as someone being an idiot and messing up.

In general, I was told by my employer, to always stay away from the site owners, this is how my predecessor lost his job.  However, the site owners had pulled one of my co-workers out with their front end loader last year.

When I got back to my work area after helping the independent outside contractor to get their work truck unstuck at about 3:30 p.m., I realized that the site owners were all gone, there was no one else around, there was only me.  If the independent contractor had not been able to pull their truck out using their own one-ton four-wheel-drive dually Dodge diesel truck, the only thing that would have gotten that truck out, was the front end loader.

I probably would have gotten on the loader, carefully driven it down there, pulled the truck out easily, and taken the loader back to where it was parked.  I would not have thought too much about it, I suppose, because there was nothing else to do about the situation, in my opinion.

I have worked as a laborer, foreman, superintendent, project manager, inspector, engineer, and contractor.  In my work experience, you do what you can when another contractor is in a bind, because you would hope and expect another contractor to do the same thing for you.  Also, in my work experience, it is expected by the site owner, that there is to be cooperation among contractors, you do not withhold help when it is needed.

In my work experience, I have operated a loader, backhoe, dozer, excavator, crane, lull, bucket truck, trencher, plow, and directional drill rig, without ever having an accident or damaging anything.  Would I have gotten fired for using the site owner’s front end loader to pull another contractor’s truck out?

The following day, I asked my co-worker who has been working at this site for four years, and he said, yes, the site owner would have demanded that the company that I work for, fire me immediately for using their front end loader.

I had very little to do with the work that this independent outside contractor was performing, I just happened to be the only other personnel on site when they got stuck.  It did not benefit me to help this contractor, it only benefited the site owners to help get this other work completed.

I felt bad that I came close to losing my job, by helping someone else which did not benefit me in any way.  But I would have lost my job, and this type of thing is very typical in North Dakota, completely different from anywhere else that I have worked.

Why There Are So Many Crimes Of Sexual Perversion In Western North Dakota

Western North Dakota’s outlook and approach to sex and sexuality is backwards and repressive.  Even before the most recent oil boom that took place from 2007 through 2014, there was a much greater number of men than women in Western North Dakota.  During the oil boom, the ratio of men to women in Dickinson was probably about 3:1, in Watford City and Williston it was probably as high as 8:1.

The worst possible approach to the lack of women in Western North Dakota, was to encourage or force Law Enforcement to not allow any prostitution whatsoever.  People like the big, overweight, unattractive Senator Heidi Heitkamp were so against men trying to find women for sex, that she advocated for every possible scheme that Law Enforcement could come up with to entrap men seeking to have sex with women.

It seems like it was a team effort of Heidi Heitkamp and other big, overweight, unattractive women to prevent men from having sex.  I don’t know exactly when, where, how, and why Western North Dakotans got the idea that sex was wrong, immoral, wicked, and evil.  People and animals have been having sex for a long time, since the beginning of creation.

A few blog posts ago, I included a YouTube video from the spiritual teacher named Teal Swan, about sex, and the normalcy of sexual expression.

In this blog post, I want to include a YouTube video from the sexual education teacher named Dr. Lindsey Doe.  Dr. Lindsey Doe has over one hundred short YouTube videos about sex, which are very to-the-point, open, and entertaining.

I am trying to make North Dakotans understand, that sex is completely normal.  It is completely normal for men to seek to have sex with women.  When there is a shortage of women in an area, one of the easiest and best solutions, would be to allow prostitution.

When you take the approach of North Dakota, to try to make normal adult heterosexual sex illegal, and even have Law Enforcement try to entrap men when they seek to have sex with women, you are creating the situations that we often read about in the North Dakota newspapers where sexually depraved men are accused of seeking or forcing sex with minors, children, and animals.  If you didn’t make normal adult sex with women in North Dakota illegal, maybe so many men wouldn’t become sexually depraved and sexually assault women, minors, children, and animals.

Here is one video from Dr. Lindsey Doe, where she explains the normalcy of being propositioned by men:

I highly recommend visiting Dr. Lindsey Doe’s YouTube channel to browse the many topics that she addresses.