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Women Have Made A Big Mistake With Their Bad Publicity

Yesterday I wrote a blog post article about a regional wedding photography business closing down, notifying customers that their deposits will not be returned, and more than 170 people filing a complaint with the Attorney General’s Office for the return of their money, usually in the neighborhood of a $5,000 deposit.

When I read the first newspaper article about this photography business, Glasser Images of Bismarck, I was more angry about women paying $5,000 deposit upfront for photographs, sometimes more than a year in advance, to “hold their spot”, than I was about Glasser Images not returning anyone’s money.

I was absolutely certain in my mind, that if I was planning a wedding with my fiance, and I found out that she had given a $5,000 deposit to a wedding photographer, the wedding would be off. It’s partly about the foolishness/recklessness/insanity of paying more than $5,000 for wedding photographs, but it’s mostly about never being able to trust my fiance ever again, and her true nature being unveiled.

I had been meaning to write about a revelation that I had a week ago, “The Mystery About Women Is Gone”. When I was a child, and a young man, there was a great deal of “mystery” regarding women. In art, literature, movies, magazines, non-fiction studies, women were a mystery that was not yet figured out.

For possibly a thousand years or more, women had been careful to not reveal too much. In doing so, men had to guess at what women wanted or what women were like. Men supposed or attributed virtues or characteristics to women, that they imagined that women had. Prior to year 2000, most movies and books portrayed men as trying to win the affection and attention of women, as if women were a “prize” to be won.

Because of the amount of information available about women now, and so much “bad publicity” about women, the true nature of women has finally been revealed. Nothing could be more ugly, revolting, and disappointing than seeing the true nature of women.

Women gaining equal rights, freedom, employment, and education as men, has given women the ability to begin doing whatever it is that they want to do. One of the first things that women began doing, is filing for divorce. Once women discovered that they can force their husband out of their own home, force their husband to continue paying for their home, their children, and them, with the Government enforcing the collection of money from the men, that is what women chose to do, 50% of the time.

When women gained equal access to employment, women had to be hired without discrimination, sometimes the requirements had to be lowered for women, women soon discovered that they could get out of work, extort more money than they were being paid, by filing sexual harassment lawsuits.

When women gained equal access to employment and higher education, women decided that they could make more money selling nude photographs and pornographic videos of themselves on the internet.

Prior to year 2000, many men were under the impression that women guarded their “virtue” as something that was reserved for their future husband or close intimate partner. Nothing could be further from the truth. Thanks to internet websites like Pornhub, OnlyFans, and Chaturbate, it is clear that ALL WOMEN will take off all of their clothes and have sex with anyone for money.

Not only does this reveal ALL WOMEN to be whores, it makes ALL WOMEN to be liars too. Women had been leading men to believe that they were being very selective, reserved, and cautious as to who they would be intimate with, but it turns out that the truth is, women will do anything with anybody. Kind of makes “sexual harassment” lawsuits a joke, and a lie, doesn’t it?

Lastly, because of all of the bad publicity about women, it shows that women’s intellect, reasoning, logic, responsibility, and maturity, never advances beyond that of a 12 year old child:

  • Women are supposed to have the best interest of their own children, yet women initiate 80% of all divorces.  Women don’t care about the welfare of their own children, they want to get the father of their children out of the household, so that they can be a whore with as many men as possible.  Women plan on wrecking their own marriage from the beginning, they never wanted to be a wife in the first place.
  • Women manipulate and coerce their husbands into buying her a much more expensive house, vehicle, furniture, and wants than her husband can afford by working 50-80 hours per week, because women are like spoiled children.  Women plan on wrecking their own marriage from the beginning, they just wanted attention, presents, and to make a man as miserable as possible for their entertainment.
  • Women seek to gain as high-level employment, authority, responsibility, or political position as possible, and then start with the sexual harassment allegations for attention, money, and to destroy everything around them.
  • Women seek to gain the same employment as men in difficult, strenuous, or dangerous work or military duty, then seek to get out of work or duty when it becomes difficult, strenuous, or dangerous, by acting like a weak child.
  • Women claim to be strong and independent, yet always seek to get their parents, husband, some guy, the employer they’re suing, or the Government to support them.
  • Women claim to be strong and independent, yet always seek to get their father, husband, boyfriend, or some guy to do anything difficult for them, like a helpless child.
  • Women seek to gain the same employment as men, and equal pay as men, then expect men to make more money than them.
  • Women seek to gain the same higher education as men, then expect men to have a higher education level than them.
  • Women who may have shortcomings in physical stature, physical appearance, health, social standing, income level, education level, living situation, employment, expect to have a relationship with the top 5% of men.
  • All women claim to have been abused by their ex-husband, especially “emotional abuse”.

My Opinion Of Glasser Wedding Photography Going Out Of Business

A few days ago I read a newspaper article about a well-known long-established regional wedding photography business closing and informing its customers that it would be unable to return any deposits. Almost immediately, at least fifty individuals began filing complaints with the North Dakota Attorney General, stating that they had paid in the neighborhood of $5,000 for their wedding photography deposit. Fifty times $5,000, we are talking about more than $250,000 in unreturned deposits for services that were never received.

If/when you read some of the news articles about this situation, some of these articles state that the Attorney General’s Office has now received more than 170 complaints. Glasser Photography had applied for and received two loans totaling $500,000 as Covid paycheck assistance during the 2020/2021 pandemic. So for me, I am wondering where this $500,000 loan money and this likely more than $250,000 in unreturned deposits went.

But the reason why I chose to write a blog post article about this, is because I can’t believe that all of these women would pay more than $5,000 for wedding photography in the first place, let alone pay anyone $5,000 upfront for wedding photography that might not take place for more than a year, and maybe not at all if the wedding was cancelled.

If I loved some woman very much, a young beautiful woman with a great personality, who I thought that I could trust, if I ever found out that she had written a check for $5,000 to a wedding photographer as a deposit, the wedding would be off. Absolutely, positively the wedding would be off. What I would say, would be something like this:

“I can’t believe that you would give a wedding photographer $5,000.  I don’t make that much money, I have never made that much money where I could spend money like that.  I thought that I could trust you, and that we saw things eye-to-eye, that we were on the same page.  Now I realize that I was wrong, and that I can never trust you.  I can’t marry you.”

What I would be thinking was:  Man, I can’t believe that she did that.  I can’t believe that she would do something like that.  I thought that I could trust her.  I thought that she had better sense than that.  Now that she has done this, I now see that I can no longer trust her.  There is no telling what she might do, if she is going to spend money like that.

I would then easily be able to picture my fiance once we were married, wasting money constantly like it grows on trees, and then attempting to waste, destroy, and steal absolutely everything that I own during a divorce.

This is North Dakota, many of these women who were getting married are not that attractive, who wants to look at some plump girl’s wedding photos?  $5,000 wedding photos are just going to show more clearly how overweight and unattractive she, her bridesmaids, friends, and family members are.  Something like 50% of marriages fail, who’s going to want to look at wedding photos from a failed marriage?

Here is a Bismarck Tribune newspaper article:  https://bismarcktribune.com/news/local/bismarck/abrupt-closure-of-glasser-images-sends-couples-with-weddings-scrambling-ags-office-investigating/article_de932153-d0be-53b9-a3e4-b595dc612357.html

Here is a Grand Forks Herald newspaper article:  https://www.grandforksherald.com/business/7230139-Sudden-closure-of-Bismarck-photo-studio-prompts-flood-of-complaints-state-investigation

Citizen’s Community Police In Dickinson North Dakota

Ten days ago I came under attack from angry, hateful, bitter, vicious women in Dickinson, North Dakota.  But thankfully, not from any of the women on my “List Of Attractive Women In Dickinson, North Dakota”.

You see, the women on this list must meet certain requirements of attractiveness which include appearance, demeanor, bearing, dress, civility, and respectability.  Do you know, that in the over three years since publishing this list, I have never once had to remove a member from this list, or even issue a warning?

For reference, here is this list https://dickinson58601.com/2016/11/16/list-of-attractive-women-in-dickinson-north-dakota/  .  More than a year ago, I ran out of women in Dickinson to include on this list, because no one else met the minimum requirements.

Since coming under attack by the unattractive women in Dickinson ten days ago, I thought about how I might improve Dickinson and the women in Dickinson.  Part of the problem is that there are no standards, nor is there any enforcement of standards.  The women just do whatever they want, like savages, or wild animals.

What I have come up with, is the creation of the Citizen’s Community Police in Dickinson.  This organization will engage in the implementation and enforcement of standards and rules for women in Dickinson.  Just like it is the job of the Police in Dickinson to detect and deter crime, the job of the Citizen’s Community Police in Dickinson will be to detect and deter bad behavior by women.

Beginning now, the citizens of Dickinson can report bad behavior by individual women, a file will be created, the information will be recorded, an investigation will be conducted, and citations or arrest will follow as appropriate.

Citizens of Dickinson are asked to keep an eye open for suspicious or inappropriate behavior by women, and report it.  Here are some examples:

  • Driving too fast.
  • Texting while driving.
  • Leering and Sneering.
  • Causing problems.
  • Being a problem.
  • Causing trouble.
  • Wearing pajama pants outside the house.
  • Not getting dressed in the morning.
  • Talking like someone from the ghetto in a city.
  • Wearing leggings outside the house.
  • Not keeping house.
  • Causing trouble on Facebook.
  • Disrespecting their husband.
  • Disrespecting their boyfriend.
  • Disrespecting their parents.
  • Monkey branching.
  • Acting stupid.
  • Being rude.
  • Using bad language.
  • Excessive arguing.
  • Excessive complaining.
  • Not following instructions.
  • Bad check writing.
  • Using drugs.
  • Stealing.
  • Handling stolen goods.
  • Making false allegations.
  • Arriving late for work or appointments.
  • Not showing up for work or appointments.
  • Cutting their hair too short.
  • Coloring their hair an unnatural color.
  • Getting tattoos.
  • Growing dreadlocks.
  • Littering.
  • Being jail bait.
  • Bad hygiene.
  • Taking inappropriate selfies.
  • Not washing hands.
  • Sticking fingers in mouth in public.
  • Interfering with men’s weight training areas.
  • Being contentious.
  • Causing other people to have to do their job.

Once reports are received, and a file is created, a.k.a. “their jacket”, women will be assessed an ongoing demerit point total, which will result, in order of severity:  verbal warning, written warning, written citation, arrest, incarceration.

Following arrest or incarceration, women will be required to complete both community service and receive counseling as appropriate on topics such as “health”, “hygiene”, “home economics”, “manners”, “the proper care and feeding of husbands”, “how to find and keep a husband”, and so forth.

Women’s files or “their jackets”, will be kept confidential except for sharing with Law Enforcement, The Courts, Husbands, Fiancees, Boyfriends, Parents, Pastors, The Mormon Church, Colleges, Universities, Banks, Car Dealers, Employers, and Landlords.

North Dakota Ranks As 48th Worst State For Finding A Mate

When I first came to North Dakota in the Spring of 2011, the first things that I noticed were the miles of prairie, lack of trees, lack of women, and scarcity of attractive women.  In a way, the local people in Dickinson were aware that there was a shortage of women, and a scarcity of attractive women, because they came up with the joke themselves, “There’s a beautiful woman behind every tree.”……. Again, remember, there are no trees.

During the oil boom in North Dakota from 2007-2015, the ratio of men to women in western North Dakota towns ranged from 3:1 to as high as 20:1.  Now that the oil boom is over, the ratio of men to women in Dickinson is still about 3:1.  After having lived in Dickinson for a little over seven years, I am getting the impression that this 3:1 ratio has existed since the homesteaders came to this area in the 1890s.

If they can help it, women don’t want to come to this area of vacant, barren, desolate, cold, windy, bleak, undeveloped prairie.  Because there are no trees here, the first settlers had to build their houses out of stacked grass sod, and they had to burn animal dung for heating and cooking.  Many North Dakotans stayed very poor, living in tiny houses with no indoor plumbing up until the 1970s.

To this day, most of the women who are born in western North Dakota, if they are attractive, they plan on escaping as soon as possible.  They experience the harsh, deadly cold, the isolation, the nothingness, the ugliness, the ignorance, and they want to get out of here as soon as possible.

When you combine the fact that most adult women do not want to come to western North Dakota, and most of the attractive women who are born in western North Dakota try to get out of here as soon as possible, this is what creates the 3:1 male to female ratio.

The women who are left here in western North Dakota, are mean, snarling, sneering, scowling, no-neck, ham-fisted, cankle-calf, line-backer, battle-axe women, some of them even have tusks.  There is some evidence that the forebears of the people who settled Dickinson were offspring of the female Yeti named Zana that was captured in Russia in the late 1800s.  Here is the link to a very good article about Zana, who is remarkably similar to the women in Dickinson http://www.bigfootencounters.com/articles/zana.htm

Perhaps because the women in Dickinson are so unattractive, the shortage of women in Dickinson, or because of some biological remnant of the historical cross-species mating of the ancestors of the people in Dickinson, some men in the Dickinson area have sex with horses and cattle, as documented by the Grand Forks Herald newspaper article  https://www.grandforksherald.com/news/2187378-dickinson-officials-investigate-sexual-assault-horse

Now, there is a study that shows that North Dakota ranks as the 48th worst state for people finding a mate https://www.grandforksherald.com/lifestyle/4926326-Report-North-Dakota-is-among-worst-states-to-find-love-and-Minnesota-is-one-of-the-best

A Black Man Explains Why He Can’t Buy A House While He Is Married

A couple of days ago I was watching a video made by a Black man in his 40s, explaining why he can’t buy a house while he is married.  I thought that there is no way that this is going to make any sense, but it turns out to my surprise that he is correct.

This Black man is fairly intelligent and competent, so when I began hearing him describe that he and his wife are renting an apartment, I thought that something was wrong, because one of the easiest and best ways to invest money is to own your own home rather than pay rent.

Not only are mortgage payments on a home often less than rent payments on an apartment, a home can eventually be paid off and owned, whereas a rented apartment will never be paid off and will never be owned.

As this man described his wife’s suggestion that they rent a home, he said that he told his wife that he would continue to pay his half of the rent like he had been doing, if she wanted to rent a home.  I gathered from this man that he paid his half of the rent and expenses, paid for himself, and the remainder of his money went into his personal checking account, savings account, and 401K or IRA.

I thought that surely he was smart enough to know, that if he and his wife bought a home together, over time the house would increase in value, and their equity in the home would grow.  For instance, buying a $200,000 house now, in ten years it would likely be worth at least $300,000, if not more.  That $100,000 gain in value in ten years is something that you won’t get from having your money in a savings account.

But I continued to listen to this guy to see what his reasoning was, and I was astonished, he was correct.  If he and his wife ever got a divorce, the way that the divorce courts work, they look at and consider what kind of “lifestyle” the wife had while they were married, especially if they were married for a long time and this “lifestyle” was something that she became “accustomed” to.

This Black man has seen it, and I have seen it, where a judge will award the house to the wife, sometimes with the condition that the husband continue to pay the mortgage, and sometimes not.  However, even if the judge awards the house to the wife, and does not order the husband to continue to make the mortgage payments, if his name is on the mortgage, the bank will hold the man responsible to continue to pay the mortgage until such time as future legal proceedings may free him from this responsibility.

What he was trying to do, was establish a long history of proof, that he was paying for his half of the rent, his half of the expenses, and that his wife was paying for her half of the rent, and her half of the expenses.  Everything was equal, 50%-50%.  He was not providing any kind of ease or luxury “lifestyle”, and his wife was not “accustomed” to any kind of ease or luxury provided by him.

Further, when you are renting an apartment, or renting a house, at the term of the lease ending, the renter is not entitled to anything, neither the husband or the wife are entitled to anything more, nor are either of them required to pay anything more, it is over.  Especially if a couple are going through a divorce, if they can make it to the end of the lease, and one of the occupants can leave and not be on the lease anymore, it shows that they are not financially liable anymore for that dwelling.

But this man went even further, he didn’t even want his name to be on the apartment or home lease, ever.  He wanted to be able to demonstrate that he didn’t have any financial responsibility for the rent, ever.  With his record of never, ever being financially responsible for the rent during their marriage, how could a judge ever justify ordering him to pay his wife money for housing after the divorce?

If more men ever figured all of this out to the extent that this guy did, women would be in deep shit.  One of the biggest ways that women are able to make financial gains, is by “cashing out” of their marriages.  Typically this involves a wife tricking her husband into buying the most expensive house that they can barely afford early on in their marriage, having him work like a dog to make the mortgage payments, and then ten years later or when the home has appreciated greatly in value, file for divorce with the expectation that they will be awarded the home in the divorce settlement.

Even if it takes a husband working 60 or more hours per week to pay for his wife’s car, health insurance, home, and expenses, a divorce court judge will often believe that it is “normal” for the man to work like this, and that he should continue to support his wife in this manner after their divorce, awarding her the car, the home, and payment of her health insurance.

Once men begin to understand that this is how everything works currently, they would never get married and buy a house.  Women have ruined the value of marriage, because of their greed and scheming.

I Don’t Want The Women On My List Of Attractive Women In Dickinson To Compromise

Today, I was considering that I have two new women to add to my website list, “List Of Attractive Women In Dickinson, North Dakota”.  I am hesitating to add them to this list, for several different reasons.

Both of these women are not married, one of them is about 21 years old, and the other one is 28 years old.  The 21 year old is not off to a bad start, she is still finding herself.  The 28 year old is just beginning to become professionally successful.  For the 28 year old, I have tried several times to think of who she might date in Dickinson, and I can’t think of anyone.

To be honest, this upsetting problem has been weighing on my mind for a couple of years now.  Though there is a shortage of women in Dickinson, and a scarcity of attractive women in Dickinson, for the few good, decent, intelligent, well mannered, well behaved attractive women in Dickinson, there isn’t anyone suitable for them to date.

If you go and look at my website list “List Of Attractive Women In Dickinson, North Dakota”, I am scared for all of the young unmarried women on this list, because I don’t know what they are going to do.  Unless they get out of this area, or a miracle happens, I don’t see them finding a good enough husband in this area.

What I would like for the unmarried attractive women to find, is someone who is handsome, intelligent, well-educated, confident, well-mannered, thoughtful, and considerate.  With these qualities, the wives will at least always have something.  If he is not financially successful, at least they will have all the rest of his good qualities.  If he loses his looks, at least they will have all the rest of his good qualities.

The easiest way for young women to find a husband like this, is to find a stand-out at a good College or University.  I must emphasize the importance of it being a “good” College or University, not a college where people who graduate can not spell, use correct grammar, write, read with comprehension, know history, or much of anything.

The only other way that I know of for women to find a good husband, is to move to a metropolitan area, and socialize with as many professionally successful people as possible, and make a good impression.  It does no good to socialize with professionally successful people, if you alienate them by acting foolish, unreliable, trashy, low class, or out-of-control when drinking.

Older professionally successful people, may be the best source of obtaining help or assistance in finding and identifying good quality unmarried males, but they won’t help young women who they don’t like.

I would like for the unmarried attractive women to find a husband like I am describing, so that they will have a husband who can be successful anywhere.  Successful in a big city, in a large town, or in a small town, by virtue of his appearance, intelligence, education, confidence, and personality.

What I don’t want, is for the unmarried attractive women to marry a husband who is only able to be successful during an oil boom, or only be successful due to his family’s current local influence.  These two factors, are actually an impediment to men being able to be successful elsewhere.

In writing this blog post, I realized that the miracle that these unmarried attractive women may need, is friends, family members, relatives, business contacts, social contacts, busy-body old women, and scheming old men, to assist in bringing together two people who would otherwise not have met.

I Wouldn’t Get Married And Have Children In Dickinson, North Dakota

In my previous blog post, I wrote about meeting the hottest girl in Dickinson.  Normally, I am not seriously interested in hot women, because they are so much trouble.  Other men are after them all the time, and it is stressful and difficult to keep a hot girlfriend.  They are propositioned all the time by men, and they end up getting lured away.  This would be especially true in Dickinson, because there is such a shortage of women, and such a scarcity of attractive women.

But this hot girl that I like, has many more good qualities besides being hot.  She has a great sense of humor, she is very funny, very entertaining, and she says that she does not get upset easily.  She has already been through a lot in life, which has made her more mature, and self-reliant, but not jaded and mean.  She is about 30 years old, and she has lived and worked in several western states.  She was born and grew up in a resort town in one of the western states.  Like me, even though she really liked the town where she came from, she just could not make any money there, and she had to come to Dickinson to make money.  I believe that she has been married once before.

I like her so much, that I had to stop and seriously consider what I wanted to do about it.  I realized right away that I am not in a position to get married in Dickinson, so I had better just leave her alone and not try to pursue her romantically.  That would be the best thing to do, for both me and her.

I came to Dickinson in 2011 to work and make money.  There were more jobs here, and higher paying jobs here, than in Idaho where I own a home on five acres.  The only way that I was able to save money each month while working in Dickinson, was to stay in a camper on the company property where I worked, or live in similar low cost housing.  Right now, I live with an older homeowner in Dickinson, in what is not a very ideal situation.  But I put up with very rough living conditions, in order to make money and save money.

The young women that I meet in Dickinson, housing is very important to them.  Ever since I came to Dickinson, housing has been extremely expensive, and good housing is scarce and highly sought after.  The young women here were completely willing to pay up to 60% of their income on housing, because it was the most important thing to them.  The most I ever paid here in Dickinson for housing, was 25% of my income, because housing here was not the most important thing to me.  The most important thing to me, was to pay all of my bills, especially things like property tax and insurance for my home in Idaho.

One of the biggest things that women here in Dickinson look for in a man, is his ability to pay for housing, and his ability to upgrade their housing situation.  How much money does he make, and how much of this money can he contribute to housing.  Women look at me, I’m not married and I don’t have any children, and they expect that I would be able to contribute 60% of my income to housing, like they have had to do.  They look at me, and think in their mind, that their $1,500 per month that they pay for housing, combined with the $2,000 per month that they can get from me for housing, would pay the rent on a nice house in Dickinson for the two of us.

There is no way that I would get on a joint and severally liable lease in Dickinson, for even $2,000 per month.  Right away, this would cause a huge conflict with a girlfriend.  Good housing is so important to women, that they would be outraged, and start to get very ugly about my unwillingness to spend as much as they wanted to on housing.  They would be thinking, and maybe even yelling, “Do you think that you are going to be with me for free and not have to pay!  I will just get somebody else who is willing to pay for me, you aren’t, you cheap piece of shit!”

I have been in the situation before, where I have had to move in the middle of a lease.  For my own apartment, I have had to give thirty days written notice, pay rent through the thirty days, plus pay one month rent as a penalty.  When I have been on a joint and severally liable lease with someone else, who wanted to remain in the house, I have had to pay my half of the rent for the remainder of the lease, in that instance it was five months.  Can you imagine being in Dickinson, not being able to get a job, and being on a one year lease for $2,000 to $3,000 per month, and your “Hot” girlfriend decides to leave you because you don’t have any money, and she is always getting propositioned every day by guys who do have money.  Leaving you solely responsible for the rent, even though it was her that insisted and required getting a place that cost $2,000 to $3,000 per month.

Right now, there are very few job openings in Dickinson. The jobs in Dickinson are also lower paying than they used to be, with much less overtime.  Working for any business or oil field company in Dickinson now, there is no guarantee that you will have your job next month.  I think that it would be a huge risk for anyone to try to have children in Dickinson now.  I think that it would be very careless and stupid.  I would never want to put my wife and children in a situation where we were unable to pay rent, pay utilities, pay bills, and buy groceries.

No matter who you think you are, and how much money you have been making over the last several years, most of the people in Dickinson can’t be certain that they will keep their job, or be able to find another job if they lose their job.  I have lived and worked in seven different states.  People think and tell themselves that if things get too bad, they will just move to another place to find work.  When you try to move from one place to another, you can be completely mistaken about the number and availability of jobs where you are moving.  Just because you move to some place that you think will be better, doesn’t mean that it will be better, it may in fact be worse, because of things you didn’t know or didn’t account for.

So having children now in Dickinson would be a mistake, because you don’t know if you will be able to keep your job, or find a replacement job.  And, there is no where in the United States that is having a boom right now, where you can go to work and send money back to your family.

Living and working in Dickinson for five years now, there hasn’t been many chances to meet likable women, because of the shortage of women, and scarcity of attractive women.  Now, one of the few times that I meet a woman that I really like, I have to decide to leave her alone, for both her sake and my sake.  Women want nice housing so bad, and I don’t want to pay what it costs here in Dickinson, especially because of uncertain employment.  Nor could I see getting married, settling down, and having children in Dickinson.  Living in Dickinson is just like doing time in prison, most of the normal things in life are absent.


I Can’t Believe Women Are Like This In Dickinson, North Dakota, I Couldn’t Even Make This Up

I was looking up something on the internet, when I stumbled upon a divorce case from the Dickinson, North Dakota area that made it to the Supreme Court of North Dakota.  I was reading the statement of fact summary from this case, and I couldn’t believe it, I could not have made this up, it was so horrible.  I want to tell about this case, but I don’t want to use the people’s names.  Even without using these people’s names, some older local people will know who these people are.

In 2009, a local man from the Dickinson area, decided to get married for the third time, at the age of approximately 51.  The woman he wanted to marry was approximately 48 years old, and this would be her fourth marriage.

The man was from a farming and ranching family.  It was not stated outright that he had inherited land.  It was stated that from about 1976 through 1996 he had worked on oil drill rigs to make money to help support his farming operation.  At the time of his 2009 marriage, he owned approximately 4,000 acres of land.

On the 4,000 acres of land, he raised cattle. He also allowed rock scoria mining to be performed on the land which provided additional money.  The determination of assets, liabilities, and income was straightforward, but lengthy.  At the time of marriage, the land was valued at over $3 million, but there were almost $1 million in loans against the land, farm equipment, and cattle.  One recent year of gross income from farming and ranching operations was approximately $250,000, but all the operating expenses totaled $500,000 that year.

The wife at the time of marriage, was employed at a fairly high level local government job that paid $60,000 per year.  Her assets were $100,000 in a government retirement account, and a six year old automobile.

The farmer had adult children from a previous marriage, and the woman had adult children from a previous marriage.  The farmer said that he had discussed with the woman, having a prenuptial agreement in their discussions about getting married.  When he asked her to sign a prenuptial agreement, she tried to commit suicide by taking an overdose of pills.  It was documented fact that he found her nearly dead in a cemetery and he barely got her to St. Josephs Hospital in Dickinson in time to save her life.  She was hospitalized for several days.

The farmer felt so bad about it, he didn’t ask her again to sign a prenuptial agreement, and he went ahead and married her.  Shortly after getting married, the woman quit her job because she said that is was too stressful.  He did not ask her to get a job.  He had a cleaning woman that he paid to clean the house, but his wife let her go.  His wife chose to take care of the house work.  He added his wife to his checking account, and all of their bills, all of her bills, and whatever she wanted or needed was taken out of his checking account.

During their almost four year marriage, there were periods when his wife would frequently get drunk at home, and leave to continue to go drink elsewhere, hitting things with her vehicle, and being found later drunk in her vehicle.  She attempted to commit suicide approximately three more times.  One of these times, a group of hunters found her passed out laying face down in a puddle in the woods out in the middle of nowhere.  Each of these attempted suicides required several days of hospitalization, observation, and psychiatric evaluation.  The farmer would sometimes have to follow her footprints at night through the snow across the farm to find out what happened to her, only to find that she had doubled back and was hiding in the house in a closet.

The farmer was called to bars to come get his wife because she was overly intoxicated, too drunk to drive, and kissing other men.  When he would come to get her, she would walk away, not go with him, and go someplace else to buy more alcohol.

The last straw was when his wife had been yelling and cursing at him all day and all night, and slamming doors in the house as hard as she could more than a hundred times during the night.  They separated.

In all the discovery of fact in this court case, there was not one allegation of anything wrong ever having been done by the farmer.  He did not ask his wife to get a job, he did not ask her to help very much doing farm work, he had a house cleaner which his wife let go, he had paid farm workers to do the farm work.  The farmer paid for all of their bills and for all of her bills.  The farmer had to take her at least four times to the hospital after she tried to commit suicide.  He tried to deal with his wife getting drunk at home, leaving home to drink more, and then having to go and try to find her and bring her home.  He finally had enough when she went on a tirade against him all day and all night.

Of course, of course, she wanted half of everything he had in the divorce.  She came into the marriage with a 2003 Honda, he paid for everything during their marriage, why shouldn’t she be entitled to 2,000 acres of land and his truck after almost four years of marriage?

The lower court and the Supreme Court of North Dakota did not see things the same way as the wife.  The courts cited many legal precedents and legal considerations in determining the division of marital assets: what assets each person brought into the marriage, what income each person earned prior to marriage and during the marriage, what each person contributed to the marital assets during marriage, what income earning potential each person had after the marriage.

The courts determined that the wife was entitled to approximately $161,000, minus approximately $28,000 for expenses.  The court determined that based on her previous employment, and the recent employment that she had undertaken, she should be able to support herself.