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The Hatred Of Women Being More Prevalent Than I Thought

A couple of days ago, I wrote a blog post titled “My Take On MGTOW, Men Going Their Own Way”.  Fortunately, I remember what it was like living in Idaho, where I had women friends, some nice girlfriends, and some prospective girlfriends.  These women were nice, fun, funny, reasonable, and helpful.  I am not claiming that all women are worthless.

I wrote that working and living in western North Dakota, the MGTOW way of life has been forced upon me.  Because there is a shortage of women in western North Dakota, and a scarcity of attractive women, the women who are here do not care about their appearance, and they are mean, hostile, unfriendly, glaring, scowling, and sneering.  I suppose that the women here act this way, because they think that they can get away with it.

I want to share a video today, that shows a type of video that is becoming very, very common, where men all over the World are finally coming to the point where they want to honestly and blatantly tell women once and for all:  That men are done supporting women, that men are done giving their money away to women, that women can begin doing everything for themselves, that women can expect no more free help from men, the only thing that men ever wanted from women anyway was sex, but the cost of the problems of women is just too high and not worth it.

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Women’s Health, “Body Dysmorphic Disorder”

In a recent blog post titled “Are All Women Crazy?”, I wrote about a young lady that I had liked, who was more narcissistic, more selfish, and more self-centered than any woman I had ever known, and it scared me.  I felt that something was wrong, and I wrote what I wrote.  It wasn’t until I was thinking more about her, about things that she had said, things that she does, what she thinks, what she wants to do, that I realized that she has Body Dysmorphic Disorder.

I became aware that she was working out every day for several hours.  In my mind it seemed excessive.  Her long workout sessions seemed to be the focal point of her day.  Her mood seemed to be dependent on how rigorous and strenuous her workout had been.  Her attire each day was not modest, and it accentuated some musculature that was very developed in her upper legs and buttox, but showed every other muscle to be over-trained and small, almost like an anorexic person.

I showed this young lady the Facebook page of a female body builder in Montana, who was the sister of someone I know.  This female body builder in Montana, in her event competition photos, had musculature that was nearly approaching the size and definition of male body builder musculature, combined with masculine facial features and structure.  I had already seen in this female body builder’s Facebook photos, that prior to her body building competitions, when her musculature was not highly developed at all, she did not have masculine facial features.  In other words, comparing the photos of this female body builder when she was highly muscular compared to when she was not highly muscular, the masculinity of her facial features showed what I believe to be indications of steroid, testosterone, or growth hormone use.

From when I was seventeen to twenty-seven years old, I spent at least three days a week, in probably ten different gyms.  I knew many different men and women that competed in bodybuilding and powerlifting.  I knew a lot about training and drug use.

When I showed the young lady that I had liked, the event competition photos of this female bodybuilder, who I believed showed evidence of steroid, testosterone, or growth hormone use, this young lady said that she did not think this bodybuilder was well defined enough.  She said that she wanted to compete also, but when she entered a competition, she would have much better definition and would be leaner.  I asked her if she meant that she was intending to do the fitness competitions.  She said no, the bodybuilding competitions.

At that time, I tried to talk to her about steroid use, about negative consequences of steroid use.  I talked to her about a bodybuilder that I knew who died when he was 27 from steroid use.  She was not completely agreeing with me, although she was agreeing with me some.  She talked some more about her plans to compete.

Why is she so interested in bodybuilding, she is so thin and petite?  She spends several hours every day in strenuous work outs, the only significant muscle development that she has is in her upper legs and buttox, every other muscle is over-trained and small.  You can’t over work the same muscles every day.  This is almost like someone who has anorexia nervosa.  I have met women in the gym before who had anorexia nervosa, they had to work out every day for several hours.  Wait a minute!  Oh my God!

There is an extremely clear and concise article on Wikipedia about Body Dysmorphic Disorder.  It is a psychological disorder similar to Anorexia Nervosa.  It is a psychological disorder that is also related to Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.  A person who has Body Dysmorphic Disorder, believes that they have a physical body defect where none exists, or there is a very minor abnormality and the person spends several hours each day worrying about it, several hours each day trying to cover it up, or several hours every day trying to correct it.

A person with Anorexia Nervosa, may look in the mirror, and no matter how thin they become, they believe that they need to lose more weight.  There is a subset of Body Dysmorphic Disorder, called Muscle Dysmorphic, where when a person looks in the mirror, they always feel that they are not muscular enough.  There is an Obsessive Compulsive element to Muscle Dysmorphic, because the person feels that they must work out for several hours each day no matter what, and they become greatly distressed if they are unable to do so.  One of the other components of Body Dysmorphic Disorder and Muscle Dysmorphic, is that the person will become very angry if it is pointed out to them that there is nothing wrong with their body, and there is no need for them to work out for several hours each day.  Because of this, people with Body Dysmorphic Disorder try to hide the amount of time they spend worrying about how they look, and try to hide the amount of time they spend trying to correct how they look.  Ordinary people and sometimes even medical doctor psychiatrists mistake this behavior as mere vanity, not realizing that it is much more severe.

The behavior is identified as Body Dysmorphic Disorder when the person spends several hours each day worrying about a body defect which does not exist, spends several hours each day trying to cover up or remedy the supposed defect, feels very distressed when not able to spend several hours addressing the supposed defect, becomes angry when it is pointed out to them that they have no body defect, and their behavior is seen to interfere with work, education, relationships, or social interaction.

The Most Helpful Advice for Women in Dickinson, North Dakota

I wish that I could have written this blog post back in 2010, and that I could have gotten all women in North Dakota to read it.  This is probably the most important and helpful advice that I could ever give to women in Dickinson, North Dakota.  If I had a daughter, I would have a serious discussion with her about this when she was about 10 years old, and then when she was about 12 years old, and when she was 14 years old, and 16 years old.

What I am going to say, comes from my experience in living and working in seven different states, from my 40 plus years of being alive, from my experiences with men and women I have met, worked with, and lived with, experience from my own family.  This is advice that my mother gave to my sister, and advice that my grandmother gave to my mother, which served them very well.

I hope to God that you will listen to this advice.  Even if you are stubborn or strong-willed, and determined to do what you want, I hope that at some level this advice will reach you, and possibly save you at some point.

Here it is:  “Men that you do not know, do not taunt them to anger.”  Women and young girls living in Dickinson, you may have grown up knowing the same boys and men since first grade, and you may think that you understand men.  You probably do understand men to some extent.  I am not going to talk very much about psychology or psychiatry to explain this to you, because an in-depth explanation is not needed right now, I just need to make you understand that when men become enraged, they no longer think about what they are doing, they just act.

Please, please understand, that when you taunt a man to anger, you may unintentionally and unknowingly have caused him to reach that point at which he is going to cease thinking, and just act on his anger.  In a small town like Dickinson, older residents may have only seen this personally a few times in their lifetime, if you are a young lady, you may have never seen this.  In the past thirty years in Dickinson, there have been a few shootings where this has happened.

The best example that I can think of is this one:  In approximately 1990, in Gainesville, Florida there were more than several murders of young college students committed by serial killer Danny Rolling.  However, there were two young women college students that were murdered by a man, who was married, the father of young children, an active member in his church, who was known to be decent and hardworking.  This man owned and operated a carpet cleaning business in Gainesville, where the University of Florida is located.  Two young women, approximately 20 years of age, had telephoned him to have him come and clean the carpets in their apartment.  The carpet cleaner turned himself in to the police after he killed them both with his bare hands.  He said that the whole time he was cleaning the carpets, the young women had been wearing short shorts, and loose tank tops, they had kept bending over in front of him showing their breasts, and bending over in front of him showing their bottoms.  He said he had become very upset trying to fight against the lust and sexual frustration that was building in him, he was married, a father, a Christian, he was fighting against his desire.  He managed to finish cleaning the carpets in all of the rooms without incident, but he was upset and didn’t understand why the two young girls were taunting him sexually.  He asked to be paid, to which the girls replied that they didn’t have any money, implying that the “show” should have been enough.  In a fit of rage, he killed them both.

Another example:  In approximately 2010, I had a man working for me named Clyde.  Clyde had been married for approximately 20 years, and had two teen age children with his wife.  Clyde’s wife wanted a separation, but they were still living together.  One morning, I went to pick up Clyde for work, his daughter answered the door and told me that Clyde had been taken to jail for domestic violence.  I went to jail to see how much his bail was, it was $100,000.  What had happened was, that his wife was getting dressed-up and made-up to go on a date with another man, and was taunting Clyde.  Clyde got a knife and was trying to stab his wife.  She was on the phone with the 911 dispatcher while Clyde was trying to drag her out from underneath the bed yelling that he was going to cut her tongue out and cut her face off, this was all recorded.  In the year prior to this happening, talking about other people, Clyde had always said, “You never hit a woman, you ain’t no kind of man if you hit a woman, I would never hit a woman.”

Another example:  At a university that I went to, I had a friend who was Chinese named Mike.  Mike was about 22 years old, his sister was about 24 years old, and she had about two more years to go before graduating from the college of dentistry at this university.  As I already stated, Mike was Chinese, he was about the most non-violent person I have ever been friends with, he was as docile as a Chinese Pug dog.  He and his sister shared a townhouse that was owned by his father who was a medical doctor.  Mike’s sister would pick at him, and pick, and pick, and put him down, all day, every day for a couple of years.  Finally, Mike snapped, he grabbed his sister by the neck, held her down, and choked her.  He let go of her just before she was dead.  Mike was not proud of this, me and his friends only knew about it because of having to help Mike move.

I have many more examples of men that have no history of violence, who have lost their temper with women, and men who have a history of violence who have lost their temper with women.  I don’t think that any more examples right now would make the point any clearer that when men reach a certain point in their anger, they commit violence without any thought of the consequences.

After my mother died, she was about 66 years old, my father started dating a woman that had been a girlfriend in high school, Bobbi was her name.  My father and Bobbi were asking me how my job was going, working for a shipbuilding company.  I was telling them about inspecting tankers and freighters for damage, crawling through the bilges, nearly getting locked in, the welders cutting through their own gas hose when I was in a small bilge space.  My sister replied, that she didn’t know why I was so worried about getting killed.  My father’s girlfriend explained to my sister, that there are a lot worse things than being killed, like becoming paralyzed, or being burned nearly to death.

Apparently, women and young women have a romantic idea about being killed, that it will be over in an instant, and that you will never grow old, that you will always be remembered as being young, that you will be thought of as a heroin, a martyr.  Women should consider that if they are the victim of violence, they may be made disfigured, or be made handicapped.  They may have a long life, but not be able to go places because they are handicapped or not want to go places because they are disfigured.

There are other things that women should consider before taunting a man to anger, such as what state of mind he might be in, or what his past history might be.  Some men, at some point in their lives, feel that they have nothing to lose, they are unafraid of going to jail, unafraid of the police, and may additionally be more dangerous when they are in this state of mind because they have one or more firearms.  There are some men that have spent a lot of time in prison, or in the military, or in combat, who have become desensitized to violence, the threat of violence against them, and have become skilled in hurting and killing people.  Most women do not know, that if you taunt some men to anger, without intending to, they will change from being the person who gets along in the community, to the person that used to have to hurt or kill people to survive.

A friend of mine, Don, spent many years in the military, and many more years in prison.  When Don was about 50 years of age, he was camping, and drinking with some people he had become acquainted with.  He doesn’t know exactly how it got started that they attacked him, he thought that possibly they wanted to take his gold necklace.  They attacked him with a tire iron, he took it away from them and killed them both.  He hid their bodies under a bridge.  The bodies were found within three days, people remembered Don, and Don was caught within a couple of months.  He served approximately fourteen years in prison.  Don’s sentence was not that long, due partly to his advanced age, and partly due to his mental condition.  The court did recognize that due to Don’s combat experience as a Marine in Vietnam, when he was attacked, he snapped back into that person that killed people.