During the months of July and August of this year, I got a lot of angry comments from several readers about my blog posts. Though I had a couple thousand readers in those two months who didn’t write any comments, the same several readers kept complaining again and again. They didn’t like my blog post titled, “Breaking Cats And Breaking Women Is The Same Thing”, my statement that “What women say they want, and what they actually want, are two different things.”, my statement that “Women will change their mind in an instant.”, or my statement that, “When women say stop, sometimes they don’t want you to stop.”
I replied to one of the commentors that he didn’t know anything about women, that he didn’t know what was going on around him, and that he should go read some books or something. I wrote that I have gotten more complaints from women for not being abusive enough, than for being mean to them.
I will try to explain this using two real life examples. Number One:
In North Dakota, my co-worker/supervisor who was 48 years old, the same age as me, he had a 28 year old girlfriend. The two of them had been living together for about one year. My co-worker/supervisor told me that his girlfriend was very good looking. When I met her, yes, she was very good looking, in every way. She had long brown hair, beautiful face and complexion, very good build, she was very healthy. She was intelligent, personable, and pleasant.
Circumstances arose, to where my co-worker/supervisor needed to explain to me that about six months earlier, he and his girlfriend had gotten into a fight, a phone was dropped, knocked over, or pressed in the middle of the fight, and the phone re-dialed the owner of the company that we were working for. The owner of the company did not answer this phone call, and it went to voice mail. On the voice mail recording, was my co-worker/supervisor yelling at, beating, and choking his girlfriend. His girlfriend was screaming, and yelling that she couldn’t breathe.
When the owner of the company played the voice mail message, he didn’t know what to think. Rather than telephoning the police, the company owner drove to my co-worker/supervisor’s house to see if his girlfriend was dead or severely beaten. During the visit from the owner of the company, my co-worker/supervisor and his girlfriend explained that everything was cool, this was a normal fight for them.
My co-worker/supervisor’s girlfriend, was very capable, healthy, intelligent, and attractive. Her father lived about twenty minutes away, she could have gone to her father’s house any time she wanted to. She could have walked out or driven away any time she wanted to. Where she lived, the ratio of men to women was about 10:1, she could have gotten a boyfriend her own age, or another boyfriend in an instant. I came to find out that my co-worker/supervisor would sometimes or often times get drunk and go crazy. But somehow, for some reason, the yelling, fighting, and rough handling of his girlfriend, was something that she looking for, something she wanted.
I believe that many readers are going to disagree with my perspective on the story that I just told above. Some women would say, “No woman wants to be abused or treated roughly.” So, I will give real life example Number Two:
A friend of mine from California named Steve, was a Petty Officer in the Navy. He was stationed in San Diego. Steve was thin and had a slight build, he was about 5′-10″ and 140 lbs., though he was somewhat handsome.
About eight years earlier, he had a very attractive girlfriend in San Diego. She was tall, thin, blond, and was working as a model when he was dating her. After they had been dating for about four to six weeks, she said to Steve, “I am used to dating men who are abusive, that is what I like. So if you want to keep me, you are going to have to start being abusive to me.”
Steve didn’t know what to think. Steve was one of the least abusive people that you would ever meet. He didn’t want to lose her, so he began to think about how to be abusive. He was not coming up with anything on how to be abusive. He could tell that his girlfriend was becoming dissatisfied with him, because of her attitude.
He and his girlfriend had gone to the grocery store. They were each carrying groceries and walking up the hallway stairs to his apartment. Without warning, Steve turned around and pushed his model girlfriend down the stairs. She tumbled down the stairs, spilling groceries everywhere, coming to a stop on the landing at the bottom of the stairs. She had this angry look on her face like, “What the fuck is wrong with you, are you crazy?” But then she started to smile, and then she started to laugh.
When his model girlfriend had said to Steve, that he needed to be more abusive to her, this is not exactly what she had meant, but this was the best that Steve could come up with.
Now, as crazy as you think that story sounds, I had the same thing happen to me. I was dating this very attractive lady who was from a very wealthy family. She lived in a very large condominium on the ocean in Florida. After we had been dating for about four to six weeks, she had a talk with me. She said that when she had began dating me, she thought that I was going to be more abusive to her and that she was disappointed in me. For one thing, when I was doing something that she didn’t like, and she told me to stop, I stopped, but she didn’t want me to stop, she wanted me to do things to her that she didn’t like, and not stop when she told me to stop.
For the young men who are reading this, I am not telling you to go be abusive to women, because you can get into a lot of trouble for this. But if you take a look around you, the young ladies are probably trying to be with the young men who are abusive and mean. I won’t go into all the reasons now, but young women and women are attracted to men who are “Alpha Males” who take what they want, who don’t care, and who are “Dangerous”. You can pretend to be like this if you want to attract the interest of women.