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Helpful Advice for Women in Dickinson, North Dakota, Part II

In this post, I want to give more advice for women in Dickinson to consider.  I hope that young school girls in Dickinson will pay attention to this advice.

Women, and young ladies, you probably see many women in Dickinson who are married and have children.  You might get the impression that this is what you should do too.  Wait, wait, just because it seems like everyone in Dickinson gets married at a young age and has children, doesn’t mean that’s what you should do.

For women, getting married at a young age, and having children right away, makes it very difficult for them to change their mind if this is not what they want.  It might feel like it is impossible to continue education or pursue a career at this point.

At a young age, or in high school, women may think that it would be cool to move in with a guy right when they turn 18.  They can have sex any time they want, as much as they want, drink as much as they want, smoke pot, and nobody can say shit.  Oops, oh shit, I’m pregnant.

The things that young women in Dickinson might be impressed with right now, like a cute guy with a big truck and an apartment, might not seem important, exciting, or anything they want when they get older.

I hope that I am not the only one telling you young women that you should continue your education after high school for at least another two years to get your associates degree.  Your math skills and English skills are good enough right out of high school for you to continue on through the basic college general education courses in math, English, biology, foreign language, western civilization, psychology, political science, etcetera.  You will be much more appealing to employers, you will have a wider variety of career options, and you will have a higher rate of pay.  Also, if you ever want to, you can go another two years and get a bachelor of science or bachelor of arts degree.

Please get your associates degree!  You will always know that you could have easily have gotten your B.S. or B.A. if you had wanted to.  Some of the college courses that you take to get your associates degree will make you see things differently than you did in high school.  Some of the college courses that you take to get your associates degree will show you the level of writing, detail, research, calculating, and presentation that would be required of you in a professional work environment.  If you do get married and have children, with an associates degree, you will be better able to earn money for your family if you ever need to.

If you go to college, you will have a chance to meet people from different areas of the country.  You might find that you like different things that you didn’t even know about.  Give yourself the chance to see what the world is like before you get married and have children.

I want to talk a little bit now about not getting pregnant.  You should not get pregnant until you are absolutely sure that you want to get pregnant.  I don’t want you to be scared of having sex, I want you to be knowledgeable about sex.  Please read several women’s health articles on the internet that explain clearly, scientifically, the whole process of an egg going down the fallopian tube, when it reaches the uterus, and when it is able to be fertilized by sperm, and where you are at in your menstrual cycle.  Don’t rely on where you are at on your calendar to not get pregnant, but be aware of where you are at.

Women, you should carry several good, not out-of-date condoms in a concealed area of your purse.  Yes, you.  It is not the guy that is going to get pregnant.  You are the one that is going to let him do it, he might not know.  I say several, because one can get damaged just getting it out of the wrapper, now you’re down to two.  I recommend getting Trojan condoms that have the spermicide lubricant.  Yes, you need the lubricated ones, they break a lot easier if they aren’t lubricated.  Keep them in a concealed area of your purse or handbag so that they don’t get damaged, so that your little brother doesn’t find them, and so guys don’t see them and think “they are in”.  You need to have them with you, sometimes you might want to do it so bad that you don’t even care, so you need to have them with you.

When I just started having sex in my late teens, I used a condom that was not lubricated, and it tore, and I didn’t stop, I might have only had one.  In my twenties, I wanted some women so bad in the moment and I trusted that they knew what they were doing so I didn’t use a condom, I didn’t know they were going to let me have sex so I didn’t have any.  In my thirties, I had some women on top, and that position causes condoms to pull off, at the worst possible time.  Each of these instances was a mistake.  Each of these instances caused me a lot of worry.  At least once, a girlfriend chose to take the morning-after-pill, so that she would not become pregnant.

2nd Post About Women in Dickinson, North Dakota

I have written about women in Dickinson elsewhere in this blog many times.  I think that one of the reasons why I write about women in Dickinson so much is because they are so different from women everywhere else.  Also, the women in Dickinson have a big effect on what Dickinson is like.

I want to again state that I am not trying to make fun of women in Dickinson, or be cruel.  The purpose of this blog is to provide truthful and helpful information to people so that they know what to expect in Dickinson, and perhaps chose not to come.

Recently, I attended an evening event in Dickinson that was primarily a women’s event, with about one hundred women.  I was startled that about sixty percent of the women were under dressed for this event.  I felt like maybe I should offer to let them borrow some of my clothes.  There was not one woman that was over dressed.  I was sad that many of the women were wearing cheap and tacky clothing.  Before I say anything else, I want to say something that I wrote before, apparently women in Dickinson have solidarity amongst themselves that they are not going to buy nice clothes, they are not going to get dressed up, they are not going to put on make up and jewelry, they are not going to stay in shape, and if they all stick with this plan, the men will not notice that there is anything wrong with the way they look.  Just about all of the women at this event were sticking to this plan.

I previously wrote in this blog that I think one of the reasons why women don’t get dressed up and don’t take care of themselves in Dickinson is because they don’t want to attract males.  They don’t want men noticing them, they don’t want men admiring them, they don’t want men asking them out, or trying to pick them up.  There are way more men than women in Dickinson, the women don’t want any more attention.

At this event, there were about ten women who were moderately attractive.  The one that I thought would be the best one for me to mate with, was about one inch taller than me, she had shoulder length brown hair, very pale unblemished skin, narrow set eyes, was slightly hunched over at the shoulders, wearing a tacky leopard spot blouse, she was about thirty years old, not thin, very slightly overweight by about ten pounds.  I thought that she had a kind of dignity to her, though she was not hot, she was not trashy either.  I thought that she probably had not been asked out a lot in her life, and had had time to develop her mind, intellect, interests, coping skills.  I thought she could be a good girlfriend.  Like some kind of prey animal, she must have sensed that I was interested in her, because when I happened to be in her area, she turned her head the opposite direction and held her hair up with her hand in order to hide behind it, so that I couldn’t possibly say something to her like,”Hello.”  I thought that she was going a bit too far, but for her, it was better to be safe than sorry.

Another woman that I was interested in was about forty-eight years old, she was about two inches taller than me, she was probably the best dressed woman at the event, she had very long beautiful legs, was tan, had a sun aged face, and had nice jewelry.  I did not really think that I could get her.  She was much more polished and outgoing than me.  When she and her friend came over to where I was, her friend was asking about her husband, to which she was saying that he works late, he doesn’t get home until about 1 a.m.  At the time, I thought that they were trying to make sure to let me know that she was married, and to forget it.  Now that I am writing this, I am wondering why she was saying in front of me that her husband works late and doesn’t get home until 1 a.m., I don’t think that she meant that as a hint, did she?

The third woman that I was noticing at the event, I at first supposed her to be about twenty-five.  She had pretty long brown hair, she was young and healthy, with a pretty face and a pretty body, she was wearing nice blue jeans and a nice plain white blouse.  I noticed that she wasn’t drinking alcohol, or anything else, or eating anything.  I wanted to ask her why she wasn’t drinking or eating, but thought I had better not, she might be pregnant or sick.  What if I had bought her and brought her a drink, and it turned out that she was eighteen years old, I am sure that her parents and the other women would have liked that, not.  She knew that I liked her, and she spoke to me and was nice to me towards the end of the event.  She left with her boyfriend.

At the very end of the event, I turned and almost walked into a very interesting young lady, well, interesting to me.  She was about 5′-2″, one hundred ten pounds, very long platinum blond hair down to her waist line, white skin, pretty face.  When I almost ran into her, I got the impression that she was kind of like a fairy tale princess, or a fairy tale mouse.  She almost ran into me at the same time, and if I thought she looked like a startled mouse, she didn’t quite react like I was a cat, more like I was a startled rat.  I said excuse me, and kept going.  Later, I talked to her for a while, she was the daughter of one of the people at the event.  I don’t know if she was seventeen, or twenty-one, I didn’t ask.

It is strange, weird, and unfortunate, that the women my age at this event didn’t want to have anything to do with me or speak to me, but some of the older women did, and some of the younger women did.  The two younger women that I spoke with were very attractive, they did not think that they were too good-looking to talk to me, and they were not too scared to talk to me.  There were about sixty women at this event that were my age, most of them were not very attractive, a few of them were moderately attractive, none of them had any interest in me whatsoever, which is even more strange because they had all been drinking alcohol.  I will sum up by saying again that women in Dickinson are not interested in getting the attention of men.

Prostitution in Dickinson, North Dakota

When I first came to Dickinson, North Dakota in May of 2011, I became bored and lonely.  There was not a lot to do, and I did not know very many people.  I did not see very many pretty women anywhere that I went in Dickinson, and most of the women were not friendly to me.  It became apparent that there was a shortage of women in Dickinson.  I had never wanted to look at an internet dating site until I came to Dickinson, but at this point, I thought that I would try it. 

At first, I set up a free user profile on “Match.com”.  On “Match.com” I found that there were very few women within 100 miles of Dickinson, and about 9 out of 10 of them were unattractive.  I then set up free user profiles on “Mingle.com”, “PlentyOfFish.com”, “DateHookup.com”, and “SeniorPeopleMeet.com”.  Using these four additional dating sites, I found that there were still very few women within 100 miles of Dickinson.  One of the reasons why there were so few women from Dickinson on the dating websites, was because there was a shortage of women in Dickinson, the ratio of men to women was probably 3:1, women here did not have a hard time getting offers for dates.

In the evening after work, I would look at the five different dating sites to see if any nice looking women from Dickinson or the surrounding area had joined, but they hadn’t.  For entertainment, I began looking at the profiles of women in other states.  Very soon I began to see some things in the profiles of women that upset me.  At first I thought that I had just come across some bad, shallow women.  But after several weeks of reading women’s profiles, and reading about two hundred profiles, I found that I hadn’t understood women at all, and this was very upsetting to me because I was forty years old.

What had started out as me trying to meet some women in Dickinson by looking at internet dating sites, really changed my life and opened my eyes.  I thought that I had understood women, but I hadn’t understood them very well at all.  In person, in magazines, in books, in movies, and on television, women talk about romance, true love, a spark, a connection, chemistry, finding their soul-mate, commitment.  But apparently what they say and what they want are entirely different things.  The internet dating sites, prompted the women to select the specific things that they were looking for, which revealed what women were really looking for.

Most women were looking for a guy with a high income, a high paying profession, a higher education level, who was good-looking, athletic, in-shape, liked to travel, and above all, most important, was tall.  I thought, “What the fuck?  Yea, there are guys like that, but they get to date models, they don’t date 40-year-old, short, plump women with four kids at home, like you.  No wonder you are divorced, you’re crazy.”

Me, I don’t care if a woman is 5′-0″ or 6′-0″, if she is 18 years old or 50 years old, if she is a hotel maid or a medical doctor, if she didn’t graduate from high school or has a PhD, if she is poor or if she is wealthy, I don’t care.  When I saw that most women have an income, occupation, and education requirement for men, I realize that most women want someone to pay for everything they want.  When most women have a height requirement for men, I guess that most women must be scared that something or someone is going to get them, and they need to be protected.  Does that sound like a child to you, someone that has never grown up, wanting someone else to pay for everything and protect them?  Now, I never had less interest in dating or getting married.  Maybe I should just hire a prostitute?  That would save me a lot of time, energy, effort, and trouble.

Some older out-of-state workers in Dickinson told me to look on a website called “Back Page”, and look under “escorts”.  I did look.  There were some nasty looking women, but also some hot looking women.  I said to the older workers that were around,”Some of these women are good-looking, but how many men do you think they are with each day?  Do they take showers after every guy?  This is kind of gross.”  An older guy answered, “These women are professionals, they know what they are doing.  You are much more likely to get a venereal disease from some easy girl that you meet in a bar, than you are from an escort.”

I started doing research on prostitutes, and I found a website titled “The Honest Courtesan, by Maggie McNeill”.  This is a very informative website, Maggie McNeill is one of the best writers that I have ever read.  I am sorry to take the mystery out of it for you, but Maggie McNeill is not her real name, she grew up in New Orleans, she went to Catholic School, she went to a University in New Orleans, and I believe that she graduated with a degree in English.  She was a librarian I believe.  When she got to be about 30 years old, she began stripping because her ex-husband had left her with a lot of debt, then she found out that she could make a lot more money as a prostitute.  She admits that she had always liked having sex, even from a young age, and that she had had sex for money for the first time when she was in college.  If you ever wanted to know anything about prostitutes, read her website, because that is all she writes about, you can ask her questions.

I asked Maggie McNeill some questions, she was very nice.  When I went to work in other states, and when I came back to North Dakota, I would look at the website “Back Page” because I was tempted.  I was tempted because I don’t like women wasting my time, I don’t mind being nice to women, but I don’t feel like playing stupid games with stupid women, I don’t feel like tricking young women, I don’t want to lie to older women who want promises, and I don’t feel like misrepresenting myself to women who expect to gain something.  I also don’t want to get any woman pregnant accidentally.  It would be easier for me just to pay an escort $250.  You could get a nice looking woman without all the frustration and stress, and then be left alone.  There are two reasons why I never did, one was that it is just so unappealing to be with a woman that has already been with four guys that day.  The second reason is getting arrested.

I read some of Maggie McNeill’s website posts that have some information on how to not get arrested.  Some of the commenters to her posts have been in the military and they have some good advice on how to not get arrested.  If you read Maggie McNeill’s website, and you read other newspaper articles on the internet, you will see that very often the police will put their own ad for an escort on “Back Page”, when you show up to meet your escort, you are arrested.  This is what happened in the beginning of February in Bismarck, North Dakota.

I am so tired of Dickinson, I am so tired of there being a shortage of women in Dickinson.  I don’t want to have sex with some local guy’s wife because she is trying to get back at him, or she is tired of him.  I have considered going over to Bismarck to meet an escort so that I am not going to have difficulties here in Dickinson.  But I was watching the local television news in early February, and the asshole police in Bismarck were so proud that they had sixty-five callers in response to their “Back Page” ad for an escort.  The asshole police in Bismarck were saying, “Obviously, there is a greater demand than there is a supply, we were not even able to arrest all of the callers, we were so swamped with calls.”  No Shit you stupid asshole cops!  What do you think you have accomplished?

There are way more men in Dickinson than women.  Most all of the truck drivers, construction workers, and oil field workers have realized that the women working as cashiers, waitresses, and bartenders are tired of being hit-on all the time.  The men have realized that the housewives in Dickinson don’t want to be bothered when they have to go to the grocery store.  So, the men look at the ads for escorts on-line, they call to make an appointment, they want to meet an escort at a hotel in Bismarck so that they don’t get into trouble here in Dickinson, and the brilliant police in Bismarck arrest them. 

The truck drivers, construction workers, and oil field workers are trying not to bother or accost women in Dickinson when they decide to spend $250 on an escort and make an appointment with an escort.  If the police are going to arrest men in this area for making an appointment with an escort, I hope that men in Dickinson will begin to proposition women at work and housewives like never before, unceasingly and inappropriately, including the police wives. Since the police don’t want there to be prostitutes, I hope that men start bothering the women in Dickinson all day long, every day, everywhere they go, so that the women and the police wives will start screaming at the police,”Let them have their prostitutes you stupid fucking assholes!”

Women in Dickinson, North Dakota

I stated that the purpose of this blog was to try to provide truthful information to people about what living in Dickinson, North Dakota, is like.  Women in Dickinson, North Dakota, are significantly different from women elsewhere.  I feel the need to explain this, not so that I can say cruel things about women in Dickinson, but to let people from out of state know what to expect.

As I have said elsewhere in this blog, there are way more men in Dickinson than women.  If you come to Dickinson, you will see that there is a shortage of women.  For most people, this is an additional unpleasant thing about Dickinson, in addition to seven months of cold grey weather, lack of places to shop, lack of entertainment, lack of things to do, over zealous DUI citations, and the fact that Dickinson residents and your co-workers from Dickinson do not like people from out of state.

Day after day after day in Dickinson, I go to the gas station, to work, to the grocery store, to the hardware store, to other stores, and I don’t see any pretty women.  It gets depressing.  I wonder to myself,”What has happened to the Earth?”  It is like I am stuck in some apocalyptic movie, living in some dreary, barren land, after some kind of devastating disaster.  It’s like I’m on some kind of prison planet.  I might as well be in prison, there are mostly men here, not any women.  The hardships in Dickinson, make me feel like I am living through the Great Depression, like I’m a refugee during a war, or that I have been put in prison for some kind of crime.  Like I said before, if you want to know what living in Dickinson will be like, you need to watch the movies “The Grapes of Wrath”, “Deliverance”, and “Planet of the Apes”.

One of the reasons why you don’t see many pretty women in Dickinson, is because, there aren’t very many.  When I lived in warm states like Florida, Texas, and Arizona, women were very concerned with how they looked, they were even competitive about it.  In states with warm climates, there are so many more opportunities to go out, for recreation, socializing, entertainment, business.  In warm states, people ride bikes, walk, jog, play tennis, play golf, surf, water ski, roller blade, swim, sun bathe.  In warm states, people go to movies, plays, concerts, cook outs, cruises, dinner parties, drinks after work.  In all of the aforementioned recreational and social activities in the warm states, the women are concerned with how they look.  They want to look good in their bathing suit, their golf outfit, their dinner dress, their party dress.  The women look forward to shopping for clothes and planning what they will wear.

Without trying to go too deep into the psychology of why women do what they do, in warm states, women want to look good, they try to look good.  The women enjoy getting attention from men, they enjoy getting noticed.  The women enjoy getting admired for their jewelry and clothing.  Women in warm states read “Vogue”, “Vanity Fair”, “Cosmopolitan”, and “People”, in order to see what clothes other women are wearing, what accessories they have, how they are wearing their hair.  In warm states, women go to the gym, exercise, diet, pay attention to what they are eating, in order to maintain and improve their appearance.

One of the reasons why women are competitive about how they look in the warm states, is because there are about equal numbers of men and women.  The women would like to be able to get the boyfriend or the husband that they want, but there is competition for the better males.  In order to be able to get one of the better males, each woman has to try to be more attractive than the other women who are seeking his attention.

In Dickinson, most of the women do not ride bikes, jog, play tennis, play golf, roller blade, swim, or water ski.  It is too cold to do outdoor activities for seven months of the year.  In Dickinson, most of the women do not go to plays, dinner parties, or drinks after work.  What I am saying is, most of the women in Dickinson do not exercise, they do not go out, they do not have any place to go, therefore, they do not care how they look, they do not care very much about what they wear, and rather than being competitive about looking good, I actually think that they are competitive about looking bad.

In Dickinson, I think that the women that are from here, try to look bad.  One possible reason why women from Dickinson try to look bad, is so that they will be left alone by the men.  There is nothing to do in Dickinson, and nowhere to go, what is the use in a woman looking good in Dickinson, it’s not like she’s looking forward to getting asked out on a date, there is nowhere to go.  Why would they want to look attractive?  They are not really looking forward to some guy in Dickinson trying to mount them.  As far as women being in competition with other women for the better males, I can just hear some woman from Dickinson in her North Dakota accent saying, “I don’t want him, you can have him,…no you can have him,….no, you can have him.”

A second reason why women in Dickinson try to look bad, is to get along with other women and to have solidarity with other women.  All of the women have decided that they are going to be anywhere from thirty pounds to one hundred pounds over weight.  If all the women do this, the men won’t really know the difference.  So when the men in Dickinson see big overweight women, with baggy loose clothing, and unkempt hair, the men think nothing of it, because that is what they are used to seeing.  The buffalo are big, the cows are big, the women are big.