When I first tried to begin writing this blog post article, I went into too much detail trying to explain my personal background and history in weight lifting, starting from when I was 10 years old, then into high school, college, and in all of the different towns and states where I had lived. In order to not waste so much time, I decided that I only really needed to convey a few main points of my experience:
- In Florida where I was born and grew up in the 1970s-1980s, most boys and young men had an interest in lifting weights that went along with wanting to play football, basketball, wrestling, or join the military after high school.
- In my experience, most boys and young men were motivated and eager to use their cheap Sears/JC Penny/K-Mart $75-$100 home weight bench sets that they had in their basement, garage, or backyard.
- Poor underprivileged white kids and black kids had just as much enthusiasm, maybe even more, than kids from affluent families when it came to weightlifting. Weight lifting had absolutely nothing to do with money or pretentiousness, but what an individual could actually personally do.
- The first commercial gyms in the town where I grew up, which was near Daytona, in the 1970s-1980s, these were weight lifting, power lifting, body building gyms. These gym members were young men and adult men who had started weight lifting as kids, using cheap home weight sets, and had continually progressed.
- Through high school, college, and as a young adult 1980s-1990s, I remember a very strong competitiveness amongst people who lifted weights and did bodybuilding, that was beneficial, motivating, and had no or very little animosity, partly because each person’s lifts, physical results, or personal effort, spoke for themselves.
- Beginning in the 2000s, across the World there began a transformation in the business model of gyms, where it was thought that weight lifting/power lifting/body building gyms had limited membership potential, whereas “Fitness Centers” had the potential to attract the most number of people.
- “Fitness Center” gyms attracted men and women of all ages, all levels of health, for hundreds of different reasons.
- By 2010, in my experience, in almost every gym that I went to, the strong motivation/enthusiasm/competitiveness of weight lifters, power lifters, and bodybuilders was completely gone. It was replaced with the distraction and hindrance of equipment “dabblers”, equipment “wanderers”, texters, trophy-wives, bored restless teenagers, “Karens”, and attention seeking twats.
Here is the TikTok video that caused me to write this blog post article:
The young woman who made this TikTok video, she is complaining about, “Some creepy old guy looking at her.” Without even starting the video, I can see why the old guy was looking at her. If this woman were at the beach, a swimming pool, a shopping mall, playing volleyball, playing basketball, taking a dance class, this guy would probably look at her in these situations as well.
However, if this same old guy were at a park, and there was a good skateboarder, acrobatic kite flyer, frisbee player, basketball player, dog trainer, guitar player, he would probably watch them too. It just so happened at this gym at that moment, that this young lady was interesting to look at. If there would have been a more attractive lady in the gym at the time, he probably would have looked at the more attractive lady.
If there would have been a great big powerlifter at this gym bench pressing 500 lbs, or squatting 700 lbs, people would have stopped what they were doing and watched, and the powerlifter would have had no problem with people watching him, because it’s interesting.
Is this complaint really about an old guy watching a young lady in a gym, that this is inappropriate, or is this about a young lady feeling vulnerable and uncomfortable because of the outfit that she has worn to the gym? If this young lady had worn baggy sweatpants and a baggy sweatshirt, would it have mattered to her if someone was watching her? Would anyone watch her if she had worn baggy clothes instead?
Do men wear thin, skin-tight, body contour-hugging tights, with bare skin mid-sections to the gym? I have never, ever seen this. So, why do women wear skin-tight, body contour-hugging, bare skin mid-section tights to the gym? Is it because these women are seeking attention? Is the real answer that women dress in attention-seeking provocative outfits in order to get attention, and if men that they like notice them that’s good, otherwise when men that they don’t like look at them they go into attention-getting “victim mode”, “unwanted sexualization mode”, “sexual harassment mode”.
If men have any sense, they will just let women have every gym to themselves, and instead buy weight training and exercise equipment to use at home. Nothing good is going to happen from going anywhere that women act like this, and make accusations.