I have written a great deal about people being hostile, unfriendly, uncooperative, and not helpful in Dickinson. I have been upset about it. I tried to understand it, discuss it, find reasons for it, explain it.
About one year ago, I began attending a small Christian Church in Dickinson. I wanted to see if there were any good people in Dickinson.
I have tried to help more than several people in Dickinson, but hardly ever did I just give anyone money. At the Church that I began going to, I did give some people money, people who seemed to legitimately need money: a visiting pastor and his wife, an out-of-state worker who was homeless, an out-of-state young person who was almost homeless, and to the pastor of the church whose family was having difficulties. Some of the people in the Church were looking for work, I offered some work that I had available to three people.
I tried to give, what I could afford to give, in an instance when I thought that a person really needed help, in order to try to help some, and hoping that others in the Church would also try to help that individual. Please remember, I stated a few months ago, that my first job was not that busy, my second job was not that busy, so I had to get a third job, I don’t have a lot of extra money to spare.
I became aware, that though this was a small church, this Church had a great deal of money. I thought that this was both good and bad. Announcements were made each month, about some very large donations that this Church had made to other churches, and I thought that this was both good and bad. The very large amount of money that was in the bank, the very large money donations that were made to other churches outside this area from this Church, I thought, “Hold on, what about all of these individuals right here in Dickinson who need help? Why can’t we help these people right here in Dickinson? Why can’t we help these people first?”
There are several people in Dickinson, that I have helped again and again. One of them, I really don’t want to be friends with him anymore because I kind of feel exhausted from helping him after many many self-inflicted vehicle breakdowns. Another person that I know, who needed money very much, I got him a job working with me. Shortly, after I got him hired to work with me, he became difficult and pig-like, partly because he was tired, and I regretted hiring him. In a second job that I have, I have hired this same person to help me on about eight different projects, he usually gets tired and cranky and has to go sit down, and I swear to myself that I will never hire him again. About the same time that I had to get a third job, this person was having severe financial problems. I got him hired to work with me. I re-did his resume and helped him through the application process, which was difficult. I did some pre-interview coaching with him, and did some practice interview questioning. Because I had more experience, was overqualified, and would be there to help him, my friend who was less experienced and less qualified, was hired to work with me.
The first week on this new job, my friend really let me down one day when he was working by himself, he could have cost both of us our jobs. He apologized the next day, and said that he realized he was totally wrong. About two weeks later, he did the same thing again when he was working by himself, and it could have cost both of us our jobs. The next day, this time he did not apologize, instead he threatened to quit because I had yelled at him, and he started to imply that he was going to attempt to get me fired for being verbally abusive to him, under the “hostile work place employment laws”.
I couldn’t believe it. I had gotten this guy hired to work with me through a lot of effort. He would not have gotten this job without me, he had not even known that this job existed, and he was not a very good candidate for this job. Now, it looked like he was going to try to get me fired, which would have resulted in him being fired too, when it became known why I had reprimanded him. Besides losing this job, I had more to worry about, I had two extra trucks, and two work trailers on property that this person owned. I was paying him rent, but not high rent. It appeared that I had better start looking for some place else to park four things.
I called the pastor of the Church that I had been going to, to ask him if he knew anywhere that I could park my two extra trucks and trailers. I explained the situation to him, that I was really upset that my friend was trying to get me fired from my job because I had reprimanded him for twice doing something that could have caused us both to lose our jobs, and now I needed to get my trucks and trailers off of his property. I knew that the pastor’s sons had farms outside of Dickinson. I knew that one of the church members had 3,000 acres outside of Dickinson.
I never heard back from this pastor. I didn’t ask for money, I asked if he knew of a place for me to park my two trucks and two trailers, knowing that he did know several places belonging to Church members. I said that I was worried about losing this job, I needed this job right now. I didn’t hear back from him.
As I stated earlier in this blog post, I have given money to the pastor of this Church, I have given money to several of the Church members, I have offered to give work to several Church members. As I have already stated, this Church has a very large amount of money in the bank, and they make announcements each month about having donated large amounts of money to churches outside of this area. I didn’t ask for money, I just asked for help. Why can’t anyone help me?
My friend realized that he would more likely lose his job than me, for complaining that I yelled at him for what he did. I don’t have to get my trucks and trailers off of his property at the moment. I did see again, that there is something wrong with people in North Dakota. Why was my friend trying to cause me to lose my job, after I have helped him so many times? Why was the Church that I was going to, refusing to help me, when I had given money and had helped people in the Church?